my 5yo is in SK and he gets in trouble alot. i believe he is autistic or aspergers, no diagnosis as of yet. he doesn't like other kids, he doesn't like playing with them and he has been acting like a clown in order to make people laugh. he is hyper, he just is. he also has a problem keeping his hands to himself. other than that he is a good boy. he is very affectionate and sensitive to what others say and do to him. so he gets in trouble and the teacher takes away recess. he misses recess, so he gets 'extra' hyper. she takes more recesses. he acts out(being silly, won't sit, ect.) because he is trapped in his classroom, so he gets gym taken away. it seems like he's always on time out. i mean, i get it. he's hyper. he hits other kids sometimes either out of playfulness or because he thinks they are being bad. i know he needs to be disciplined but i have issue with him being deprived of recesses and gym time as he really needs that to be able to sit down and work during class time. he also gets 'detention' during recess for more then one day sometimes. this drags yesterdays problems into a whole other day and makes it hard for him to have a good day that day as well. so i was dropping off difficult child @ school and the vice-principle came out to say hi to me, so i told him i was concerned about the amount of time my 5yo gets recess taken from him. he agrees with me that it might not be fair at that age for the consequence to go into the next day and got where i was coming from, but said that the sk/jk teachers handle most of their problems 'in house' because they are so little it is too scary for them to go to the office and have to talk to the principle, ect. so he says talk to the teacher about it, she should have some other ideas for disciplining him. i hate talking to the teacher. she is a witch. my 5yo loves her to bits and she says it's 'not appropriate' for him to have affection for her...*grrr.. anyways, so i had to call and make an appointment for her to call me back, which i also hate doing. she calls me back and sounds like i am sooo inconveniencing her by having her call me. i tell her what i'm thinking, careful to make it about him, not about her. i also told her that he wakes up in the night worrying about recess/detention and is starting to say he hates school, ect. she says he doesn't mind, he doesn't complain about it in class and that he just needs to make better choices. i know that, that's not my point. she says he gets the same punishments as anyone else who does those things and she has to make it equal for everyone or she won't have a safe classroom and she'll have 18 kids running wild. she was very defensive and sounded insulted. so am i wrong?