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Too much praise leads to narcissism?
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<blockquote data-quote="muttmeister" data-source="post: 651085" data-attributes="member: 135"><p>I think it's a problem. I saw it a teacher. I definitely believe that children need to be praised when they do something good and they need to live without a lot of unnecessary criticism but I started teaching in 1969 and retired in 2003. During that time there was a definite push to always praise kids more. Considering how things were when I was in school that was probably a good thing but then we reached the point where they pretty much told us that we should never criticize anything and that a child should be praised for everything all day long. Trust me, kids are not stupid. They know if they did something praiseworthy or not. Praising them just for breathing is leading to a bunch of narcissistic, entitled, conceited jerks. </p><p>As adults, whether parents or teachers or other, it is our job to help them find themselves in situations where they need to struggle a little but come out on top in the end and then we can praise them and their efforts but the praise thing has gotten entirely out of hand.</p><p>I am totally against demeaning kids but I am also totally against false praise. It is good for a child to try and fail. It is OK to say, "Good job; next time you'll do better. You improved from the last time." Whatever...but it is not OK to say, "Oh, that was wonderful!" when it obviously wasn't.</p><p>I see SOME parents overpraise kids and I see a LOT of school districts encourage it but it is a disaster.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="muttmeister, post: 651085, member: 135"] I think it's a problem. I saw it a teacher. I definitely believe that children need to be praised when they do something good and they need to live without a lot of unnecessary criticism but I started teaching in 1969 and retired in 2003. During that time there was a definite push to always praise kids more. Considering how things were when I was in school that was probably a good thing but then we reached the point where they pretty much told us that we should never criticize anything and that a child should be praised for everything all day long. Trust me, kids are not stupid. They know if they did something praiseworthy or not. Praising them just for breathing is leading to a bunch of narcissistic, entitled, conceited jerks. As adults, whether parents or teachers or other, it is our job to help them find themselves in situations where they need to struggle a little but come out on top in the end and then we can praise them and their efforts but the praise thing has gotten entirely out of hand. I am totally against demeaning kids but I am also totally against false praise. It is good for a child to try and fail. It is OK to say, "Good job; next time you'll do better. You improved from the last time." Whatever...but it is not OK to say, "Oh, that was wonderful!" when it obviously wasn't. I see SOME parents overpraise kids and I see a LOT of school districts encourage it but it is a disaster. [/QUOTE]
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