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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 657756" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Aside from Lil and Jabber's son even, I agree with this strongly. I used to spend hours and hours thinking: what does it say about me and about him that he would lie to me, steal from me, use me, play me against his dad? What kind of a person does that? If he is that kind of a person, then....on and on and on. My mind would go.</p><p></p><p>Finally, I realized that it's addiction. That's what it is. It's a primary diagnosis of mental illness. Being driven by drugs, possibly my son's first and last thought or urge always was---what is the fastest way to get what I want? </p><p></p><p>Bingo: My mom!!! </p><p></p><p>Then, if that doesn't work...bingo!! My dad...</p><p></p><p>Then if that doesn't work...bingo!!! whoever was next on the food chain.</p><p></p><p>Just a simple, what is the fastest way to accomplish my goal?</p><p></p><p>Not malicious, not even thinking about the effects on anybody or anything, not even conniving in the sense of the word that we are thinking about...simply driven by the urge/pull of drugs. </p><p></p><p>1 + 1 = 2.</p><p></p><p>No more, no less. </p><p></p><p>He played me against his dad, and vice versa, for years. He would tell me one thing, tell his dad something else, and then circle back again. We were divorced so it was pretty easy to do. Finally, his dad and I got on the same page and then the fun stopped. </p><p></p><p>FWIW...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 657756, member: 17542"] Aside from Lil and Jabber's son even, I agree with this strongly. I used to spend hours and hours thinking: what does it say about me and about him that he would lie to me, steal from me, use me, play me against his dad? What kind of a person does that? If he is that kind of a person, then....on and on and on. My mind would go. Finally, I realized that it's addiction. That's what it is. It's a primary diagnosis of mental illness. Being driven by drugs, possibly my son's first and last thought or urge always was---what is the fastest way to get what I want? Bingo: My mom!!! Then, if that doesn't work...bingo!! My dad... Then if that doesn't work...bingo!!! whoever was next on the food chain. Just a simple, what is the fastest way to accomplish my goal? Not malicious, not even thinking about the effects on anybody or anything, not even conniving in the sense of the word that we are thinking about...simply driven by the urge/pull of drugs. 1 + 1 = 2. No more, no less. He played me against his dad, and vice versa, for years. He would tell me one thing, tell his dad something else, and then circle back again. We were divorced so it was pretty easy to do. Finally, his dad and I got on the same page and then the fun stopped. FWIW... [/QUOTE]
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