My difficult child has so much anxiety, and any type of accident or a death of someone really puts him out. My easy child has been having a really difficult time lately too. girlfriend broke up with him, he is very sad and depressed. He bartends, and had become close with a lady who frequents the bar. This lady is difficult child's "girlfriend" grandma. This lady sat with my easy child one night and kissed him on the cheek, told him to keep his chin up he is a cutie. easy child told me this. Said her husband is an alcoholic and she comes to pick him up. A regular at the bar. difficult child's "girlfriend" is their grand daughter. Live in the same house. Grand daughters mom is a user, and a drinker, and grandma is left taking care of the grandkids...always. Tonight easy child recieved a phone call. Grandma was taking difficult child's girlfriend to gymnastics class and was in an accident. Grandma died. They didn't know how the girl was. AND her HUSBAND was sitting in the bar!!!! It made the morning edition paper. She was driving an Envoy, hit some ice flipped. Grandma died at the scene, girl was pulled out by witnesses and sheltered until help came. Girl was treated for minor injuries. easy child and difficult child are devastated. When I left for work we knew grandma had died, but didn't know about girl. difficult child was shaking. He does NOT handle death at all. easy child is shaken up, the only person he ever knew that died was my dad...ten years ago. What to do now? Who will take care of the two kids? Grandma had told easy child that she knew her daughter was a user(meth) and a drinker, and how she had to be sure the kids were fed. Who will be left to take care of this family. easy child has lost his faith over the last few years. Also thinks he is the best driver, doesn't wear seatbelt unless I am there. I know this is my chance to reach out and remind him of his faith. Remind him that no matter who is driving and what you are driving..when you hit ice, there is no control. And to point out, Grandma wasn't wearing seatbelt. Girl was. Now when I return from work, I will have two boys to speak to. Not sure how.