difficult child 1's girlfriend is now in her third trimester. They still haven't found a place to rent - neither of them actively looks, and one or two prospects have fallen through. They still live with girlfriend's crazy, drug-addicted, animal-abusing mother and twelve unneutered, spraying, breeding, yowling cats, and three dogs. difficult child complains continually but isn't taking action; he says he's so tired after work that he falls asleep immediately (i.e. at 6 pm). He says girlfriend does nothing but sleep and go to her shifts (convenience store). He's worried and hopes she'll 'come around' when the baby arrives. Not likely! girlfriend has been emotionally all over the place, cries constantly, seems depressed, but won't see a doctor. She never comes with difficult child 1 to see us anymore; once in awhile she responds to a text I send (if I bought something for the baby, for example). She says she wants to move but is adamant that she's bringing at least one unneutered male cat with her. Really? Really .....? Apparently yes. difficult child 1 says he won't tolerate any cats, period. girlfriend's mother may decamp to Florida this month, leaving them sitting in a filthy, hoarder-filled damaged apartment (the mother is a hoarder on top of everything else) to settle up with the landlord, even though neither one is on the lease and difficult child 1, at least, isn't responsible for either the animals or the hoarding and damage. While her departure, if it happens, may be a blessing, she may leave them in a world of legal trouble. I just don't see either of these two young people managing to care for a baby. Neither one does anything but sleep or surf the Internet when they're not at work. They have no money. difficult child 1 has kept his job, which is a record for him and a great thing, but it's such a low salary that basic living takes it all. I have no idea how they'll buy formula (girlfriend doesn't plan to breastfeed; her mother didn't, so why should she?), diapers, or anything else. girlfriend chain-smokes and her diet consists of colas and McDonalds. This poor baby has so many strikes against her already .... I think girlfriend is going to boot or leave difficult child 1 and just take the child support. At that point I think difficult child 1 will fall off the wagon in a big way and go on a long slide or a major crash. I know this is all his responsibility and he picked a doozy of a family to bind himself to, but I'm cringeing just watching this unfold. And I'm trying to be positive about the baby but I feel like crying when I think about what her life will be. I guess I'm not doing very well at detaching.