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Transitioning: childhood to adulthood+ - a repost
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<blockquote data-quote="Allan-Matlem" data-source="post: 60486" data-attributes="member: 10"><p>Hi,</p><p>in my humble opinion the most important tool we have , our ability to influence is a trusting relationship. husband is a step parent , they have never bonded and step parents don't have that moral authority as a bio- parent , in the eyes of difficult child to parent. I think you have to call her in , and say from now on you are an adult , we will offer guidance but it is your decision , but to be an adult , you must be involved with adults, job , young adults as friends , mentors etc , more than a therapist she needs a mentor , a democratic relationship with somepne who will be her confidant and guide , someone who will have her ear. Kids will hear others and yet be deaf the same words coming from us.It is not a war . win-lose dynamic but a relationship , husband should keep out of it , and the better you cope , the easier it is for husband</p><p>Allan</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Allan-Matlem, post: 60486, member: 10"] Hi, in my humble opinion the most important tool we have , our ability to influence is a trusting relationship. husband is a step parent , they have never bonded and step parents don't have that moral authority as a bio- parent , in the eyes of difficult child to parent. I think you have to call her in , and say from now on you are an adult , we will offer guidance but it is your decision , but to be an adult , you must be involved with adults, job , young adults as friends , mentors etc , more than a therapist she needs a mentor , a democratic relationship with somepne who will be her confidant and guide , someone who will have her ear. Kids will hear others and yet be deaf the same words coming from us.It is not a war . win-lose dynamic but a relationship , husband should keep out of it , and the better you cope , the easier it is for husband Allan [/QUOTE]
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