*, yes my difficult child has trouble doing simple tasks too. I don't understand it either, it is perplexing, frustrating and irritating, to say the least. You're fortunate your difficult child does not live with you and had the insight to call and apologize. When my difficult child was staying with us a few weeks ago she offered to make dinner. We usually eat at 6. At 5:30 she asked me to drive her to the store to buy the ingredients. Then between numerous distractions, she began cooking dinner. We ate dinner at 10 PM. We were all starving. She left the food out and all the dishes and disappeared. I put everything away at midnight. When she used to be invited to dinners at my mothers home, she would arrive between 1 and 3 hours late. That was usual. After spending time with her recently, I surmised that her particular issue (among others) is likely severe ADHD , although never diagnosed, she has ALL the symptoms. Which, of course, makes the simplest of tasks so difficult because she cannot stay focused, any distraction takes her off course. You sound as if you are usually extremely good at detaching and staying calm and focused on the appropriate things, I commend you on that. And, of course, you have a difficult child, which by definition offers us moments of angst. You seem to have done a very good job of keeping those moments really contained. Good work!