I have a 26 year old son that still lives at home. He keeps getting fired from one job after another. The latest was because he forged a time card. Before that was watching porn on the company computer. Before that was caught lying to the manager. He has lost more jobs in the last few years that I have ever had, and I am 50!
Lately I have caught him looking at porn on my work laptop, and having an online conversation of a sexual nature with a married woman. When I confronted him on this, as a concerned father, things quickly escalated - as they always do. He basically said that I was at fault for reading his stuff, stuff that he left on my computer screen! He denies everything unless and until you can prove that he did it. Then he makes it all my fault saying that I am too stern and disrespectful with him. He said that he doesn't have any problems with anybody but me. The he say's, "I don't have any friends. I keep getting fired because nobody likes me." His personal hygiene is atrocious and his teeth are rotting out of his head (drugs???). He once rented a room and when he left, they had to trash the sofa that he slept on because of the odor.
Over this latest incident (sexual talk with a married woman) and his subsequent absolute disrespect (screaming at me to shut up and get out of his face - even once bowing out his chest and coming at me), I told him it was time to get out. He said, "I get 30 days." Legally, he does, so I said, "OK, you just got it." 10 days later I reminded him that he had about 2 1/2 weeks left to find another place to live. He said, "You never gave me anything in writing." I told him that I didn't have the time for this now because I had to take his younger brother (13) to a Dr. appointment. He said, "Kiss my a**." When I got home I gave him his written notice to vacate. He ripped it up and threw it away.
Quite frankly I am somewhat concerned that he might come into my bedroom while I am sleeping and do something to me or my wife. He stays up all night eating and watching TV and sleeps during the day. What can I do?
Thank you for any help or advice.
Lately I have caught him looking at porn on my work laptop, and having an online conversation of a sexual nature with a married woman. When I confronted him on this, as a concerned father, things quickly escalated - as they always do. He basically said that I was at fault for reading his stuff, stuff that he left on my computer screen! He denies everything unless and until you can prove that he did it. Then he makes it all my fault saying that I am too stern and disrespectful with him. He said that he doesn't have any problems with anybody but me. The he say's, "I don't have any friends. I keep getting fired because nobody likes me." His personal hygiene is atrocious and his teeth are rotting out of his head (drugs???). He once rented a room and when he left, they had to trash the sofa that he slept on because of the odor.
Over this latest incident (sexual talk with a married woman) and his subsequent absolute disrespect (screaming at me to shut up and get out of his face - even once bowing out his chest and coming at me), I told him it was time to get out. He said, "I get 30 days." Legally, he does, so I said, "OK, you just got it." 10 days later I reminded him that he had about 2 1/2 weeks left to find another place to live. He said, "You never gave me anything in writing." I told him that I didn't have the time for this now because I had to take his younger brother (13) to a Dr. appointment. He said, "Kiss my a**." When I got home I gave him his written notice to vacate. He ripped it up and threw it away.
Quite frankly I am somewhat concerned that he might come into my bedroom while I am sleeping and do something to me or my wife. He stays up all night eating and watching TV and sleeps during the day. What can I do?
Thank you for any help or advice.
