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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 685315" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>My daughter has been in 4 inpatient programs (sad to say) and every one of them took the phone away while they were there to restrict access to their drug contacts and help keep them focused on treatment. I was very surprised to hear that your son still had his phone.</p><p></p><p>I agree with GN and TL that you should check with the facility to see if he should even have one.</p><p></p><p>We have long had a friendly disagreement on the board about whether to supply a phone for our substance abusing loved ones. I totally understand that it can be a lifeline and a way to know that our sons or daughters are alive. However, my take on it is that it is also being used to contact their drug dealers so providing phones means you are enabling them to get access to drugs. Also, if your son is only going to counseling in order for you to provide a phone it really isn't going to work.</p><p></p><p>Not to mention that the money that they would have to spend on phones goes to drugs instead.</p><p></p><p>Finally, there is the enabling component to keep them dependent on us rather than act like functioning adults who pay for their own necessities in life.</p><p></p><p>Ultimately, everything comes down to what you feel comfortable doing when it comes to decisions like providing a phone or not. There are no right or wrong answers. The great thing about this board is that we can give you things to think about and then do what seems right for you. We are here to support you.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 685315, member: 1967"] My daughter has been in 4 inpatient programs (sad to say) and every one of them took the phone away while they were there to restrict access to their drug contacts and help keep them focused on treatment. I was very surprised to hear that your son still had his phone. I agree with GN and TL that you should check with the facility to see if he should even have one. We have long had a friendly disagreement on the board about whether to supply a phone for our substance abusing loved ones. I totally understand that it can be a lifeline and a way to know that our sons or daughters are alive. However, my take on it is that it is also being used to contact their drug dealers so providing phones means you are enabling them to get access to drugs. Also, if your son is only going to counseling in order for you to provide a phone it really isn't going to work. Not to mention that the money that they would have to spend on phones goes to drugs instead. Finally, there is the enabling component to keep them dependent on us rather than act like functioning adults who pay for their own necessities in life. Ultimately, everything comes down to what you feel comfortable doing when it comes to decisions like providing a phone or not. There are no right or wrong answers. The great thing about this board is that we can give you things to think about and then do what seems right for you. We are here to support you. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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