husband bravely allowd difficult child 1 to stay home alone and play a game on his (husband's) new laptop while the rest of us went to dinner tonight. I happened to check my email on my phone while we were out, and I foud that I'd received some bizarre confirmation email from some live chat site, with some kind of gobbledy-gook name on the salutation line, using that same name as the user id and an obscene phrase for the password. By verifying the email address, I would have access to unlimited text chats and "snapshots". So the red flags are waving and I'm realizing that difficult child 1 has probably been surfing porn while we were out. I immediately called him and asked what he was doing online. I should learn to be more subtle -- but this is a hot button of mine that really gets my blood boiling. Of course, his first impulse is to lie to me. Which is essentially an ejection from the game anyway because his first transgression was already strikes one, two and three. husband and I confirmed the porn sites when we got home and looked at the laptop's history. difficult child 1 is not savvy enough to know to delete that yet. I sent him to his room and asked if he had anything to tell me. Of course he gives me the "expected" hanging head, ashamed look with downcast eyes, "I'm an idiot, mom and I don't know why I keep making the same mistakes." I was just so mad -- I said no, you're not an idiot, you're a liar. Probably not the most constructive thing to say, but I am just furious enough to spit nails. And I proceeded to confiscate all his electronics and banned him from all computers, video games, etc. indefinitely. I've talked about the porn with him before. And I've talked about the lying before. I think I need to go back to his old therapist because I just don't feel like I am reaching him. I KNOW it's natural curiosity. I KNOW it's normal for this age. But there is just SO much garbage out there, misinformation, and out and out freakish, scary stuff that he is in NO way equipped to process. Looking at Playboy's used to be one thing, but it's just in-your-face, over-the-top, uber hardcore stuff on the internet that is just NOT okay for a kid to be dealing with. I've asked husband to put a password lock on his laptop from now on. It's just too dangerous to leave laying around with difficult child's in the house.