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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 690788" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>We CANNOT write the end of the story. That is THEIRS to write, and theirs alone.</p><p>It took me a long time to "get" this. Hubby is still trying to wrap his head around it.</p><p>As long as we try to control the story... they don't GET to grow up. And they NEED to grow up.</p><p>The story belongs to them. THEY write the ending.</p><p> </p><p>I had to move from a "push" mode to a "pull" mode... instead of me pushing advice and care, my kids had to start pulling it out of me when THEY felt it was needed.</p><p>I had to move from talking, to listening; from having the answers to giving them questions to think about.</p><p>I had to get over the idea that their world revolves around ME. Because, really, once they hit school age, it doesn't - ever again - revolve around Mom.</p><p> </p><p>And yes, it's really hard when we know that the ending of the story <em>could be </em>the ending we don't want. But we can't prevent it, really. We can only help if THEY want help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 690788, member: 11791"] We CANNOT write the end of the story. That is THEIRS to write, and theirs alone. It took me a long time to "get" this. Hubby is still trying to wrap his head around it. As long as we try to control the story... they don't GET to grow up. And they NEED to grow up. The story belongs to them. THEY write the ending. I had to move from a "push" mode to a "pull" mode... instead of me pushing advice and care, my kids had to start pulling it out of me when THEY felt it was needed. I had to move from talking, to listening; from having the answers to giving them questions to think about. I had to get over the idea that their world revolves around ME. Because, really, once they hit school age, it doesn't - ever again - revolve around Mom. And yes, it's really hard when we know that the ending of the story [I]could be [/I]the ending we don't want. But we can't prevent it, really. We can only help if THEY want help. [/QUOTE]
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