OK so the good thing is our son is talking to us more.... but the result is I am getting a better sense of his moods and he fluctuates a bit, probably like all of us. And the kid hates rules!!! So tonight we talked to him and in the conversation he expressed some frustration because he wants to move on with his life.... I did tell him he has come a long way in 6 weeks, to think about that and to take it one step at a time. He seemed to hear that. He also expressed some frustration with the program making a comment that it is like all other programs.... and I reminded him they have bent over backwards for him (his words in a recent upbeat conversation) and so in fact they are not like all other programs. I think he heard that too..... and then he told us he is going to get around the rule about his phone..... ugh. I hate that and I kind of wish I didnt now know that.... but it is his stuff to deal with and i am staying out of it. BUT it worries me....... and yet the next time we talk to him he might have resolved his living situation. They did not accept his proposal that he came up with for sober living and put a lot of conditions on it which he didnt like.... so I know he has to work through it. I have to remember that when he started there, he was just planning to do one week of detox and he has stayed there for 6 weeks, all voluntarily with no pressure from us.... and so he has to figure this out. But it is so darned hard for me not to get caught up and not worry about it. I need to repeat the serenity prayer to myself..... and go to my alanon meeting!