I've read a lot of posts and I do realize that we have it much easier than most everybody on this forum. I am grateful for any advice everyone has to offer, and I realize that I don't have much to offer in return. As of today, I am not looking forward to the holidays. We usually go out Christmas Eve for brunch, and I don't feel like that can happen. I'm using the fact that I have to work as an excuse, but I can easily take off for a couple of hours. I have no expectations that she will attend Christmas Mass with us, and I don't plan on asking her. If she asks about it, I will gladly give her the time we're leaving, etc but I'm being realistic. I am hoping that she'll have to work Christmas Day, so that gives the 3 of us some relaxing time. That being said, she may completely shock us and ask for her boyfriend to have dinner and be very pleasant. I guess now it's prepare for the worst and hope for the best...and keep praying for God's intervention.