I just got very brave. I received an email from the sp ed coordinator saying that "we" can tour that sp. ed. district in this one program for kids with fetal alcohol syndrome. UMMM, Quin doesn't have Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS). If he shares some similar behaviors, well ok but the program says it focus on their learning style etc.. and Q actually has strengths where their weaknesses are. He generalizes and remembers things once he learns them easily. So, I called the advocate who knows the director of the Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) program and he said, we can see the entire range of programs and can stay there all day (does this seem a little different from when I wanted to stay the day at the SUN program in our district and was told I could stay an hour, uggg). So then I asked her, why in heck, for a tour, do I need the sp. ed. coordinator there? Can I ask that she not come? She said heck yeah... so I wrote an email in reply saying when I could go and that I would prefer to go with only my home psychiatric and advocate since it is just a tour. I said I realize that if we request placement then we all need to come to the table, but I would feel more comfortable going alone. What do I have to lose? They hate me anyway so??? It is so hard to be open with my questions, what I dont like about our district and what I want to know if they do differently, I want THEM to be able to say whatever they want to say without having to worry about being politically correct. If they say no??? What will I do then? Guess I will cross that bridge when I come to it.