yesterday I made a list of things I would do, to change how I feel. I have been overwhelmed with issues regarding both our DDs. bOth of which are now Difficult Child. I haven't changed my signature, but both are Difficult Child, believe me!
I visited the local senior center, a very well ran organization that offers free yoga, tai chi and one other type of exercise. I enjoyed my first class! Came home, had a healthy snack. Then did a 30 minute segment of cleaning (which I also added to my list of things that would make me feel better)
Then, since there has been some drama with the youngest one, I checked her texting, which I found out I could do a month or so ago when she took off for an evening and wouldn't answer the phone. Oh my, there went my inner peace. I know it isnt good that I see things she thinks are private, but I am so afraid she will do something really stupid...and I was right.
1. Old boyfriend texting and calling, and there is a court order against it (against him, not her)
2. Old boyfriend has left bruises on her arm when he is angry and doesn't want her to leave.
3. She told another friend that he gets verbally abusive and demands sex, and she is scared to say no.
4. She got upset and took some type of pills and then was sick for three days and missed school
5. She tells friends she was drinking when spending the night at my sons house, her biodad. But when I talked to him, he says he has only one bottle of booze at his house, and he can't see that any is missing.
6. Sent texts to three people when she spent night at dads house, seeing if they would pick her up after he had fallen asleep. Luckily, no one did...but one is a 20/21 yo college student in a nearby town that she has been texting! The other was a teen from high school that was smoking weed while talking to her...
7. Talking to a new guy (at least trying to move on from old boyfriend) and he straight out asked her if she just wanted to f*** or just hang out.
And more... I am just so sad and disgusted. She has an appointment with her psychologist on Thursday... I had hoped things were better, as she actually talked to me some the past few days, about trying to move on from old boyfriend. Admitted that he talked her in to giving him all her money, from Christmas gifts and chores. Probably $300, half of that to help bail him out of jail, and the rest in $20 increments probably for drugs, or to pay people back for past drugs.
I know it has come to the point that I need to let her know that I know...and that is going to cause a huge problem in our relationship. I really didn't do this just to be sneaky, but to try and keep her from being hurt and used. I don't know how many nights I have sat in the living room, so I could hear footsteps, if she tried to sneak out.
I am scared for her because she has lots of social anxiety, which can incapacitate her. The last three years, she has hidden in the school bathroom at times instead of going to class. She has cut, but not for several months. She is vulnerable in that she can't say no to people...
After all I have been thru with older Difficult Child, I don't think I can do this for 2 more years...
Ksm
I visited the local senior center, a very well ran organization that offers free yoga, tai chi and one other type of exercise. I enjoyed my first class! Came home, had a healthy snack. Then did a 30 minute segment of cleaning (which I also added to my list of things that would make me feel better)
Then, since there has been some drama with the youngest one, I checked her texting, which I found out I could do a month or so ago when she took off for an evening and wouldn't answer the phone. Oh my, there went my inner peace. I know it isnt good that I see things she thinks are private, but I am so afraid she will do something really stupid...and I was right.
1. Old boyfriend texting and calling, and there is a court order against it (against him, not her)
2. Old boyfriend has left bruises on her arm when he is angry and doesn't want her to leave.
3. She told another friend that he gets verbally abusive and demands sex, and she is scared to say no.
4. She got upset and took some type of pills and then was sick for three days and missed school
5. She tells friends she was drinking when spending the night at my sons house, her biodad. But when I talked to him, he says he has only one bottle of booze at his house, and he can't see that any is missing.
6. Sent texts to three people when she spent night at dads house, seeing if they would pick her up after he had fallen asleep. Luckily, no one did...but one is a 20/21 yo college student in a nearby town that she has been texting! The other was a teen from high school that was smoking weed while talking to her...
7. Talking to a new guy (at least trying to move on from old boyfriend) and he straight out asked her if she just wanted to f*** or just hang out.
And more... I am just so sad and disgusted. She has an appointment with her psychologist on Thursday... I had hoped things were better, as she actually talked to me some the past few days, about trying to move on from old boyfriend. Admitted that he talked her in to giving him all her money, from Christmas gifts and chores. Probably $300, half of that to help bail him out of jail, and the rest in $20 increments probably for drugs, or to pay people back for past drugs.
I know it has come to the point that I need to let her know that I know...and that is going to cause a huge problem in our relationship. I really didn't do this just to be sneaky, but to try and keep her from being hurt and used. I don't know how many nights I have sat in the living room, so I could hear footsteps, if she tried to sneak out.
I am scared for her because she has lots of social anxiety, which can incapacitate her. The last three years, she has hidden in the school bathroom at times instead of going to class. She has cut, but not for several months. She is vulnerable in that she can't say no to people...
After all I have been thru with older Difficult Child, I don't think I can do this for 2 more years...
Ksm