I'm really just babbling, but comments are welcome. difficult child is obviously in strong "like" with Monkeyboy - we know this. Monkeyboy makes a hobby out of getting wasted (remember the 40 oz comment) - we know this. difficult child just got her license back November 2nd and since none of her friends ever come to our house because they are all losers without licenses or cars or both, she goes to them, which is 15 miiles out of town. Her curfew is 11PM weeknights, 1AM weekends. Last night she didn't come home until 1AM; she called me at 12:30 to tell me she was leaving to come home. I was angry. I need my sleep during the week and since that's almost always a difficult task for me on normal nights, I HIGHLY value the measly average 5 hours a night I DO get and at this point I was down to 4hours! She said she had been drinking and didn't want to drive, but now was tanked up on coffee and felt capable. You know what? I honestly didn't even give a rat's you-know-what at that point. On the one hand, I am thinking, "Good, lose your license again you little twit!" but on the other I know that then I will be in a position dealing with getting her to and from work and dealing with her depression over being trapped in the house alone because her loser friends can't visit her or take her out! You know, maybe it would be a blessing in disguise. And I don't have to help her get to and from work - she can figure it out. One of the conditions of her coming home from her dad's was that she can't be getting wasted and having that interfere with MY life. I am going away next week with easy child for 5 days and now I am truly wondering if I should send her back to her dad's for those days that I'm gone. I worry because she only just got her new job and I don't want to jeopardize that. Even H said he was concerned because difficult child pulls a lot of [email protected] when I'm not there. H falls asleep early and difficult child takes advantage of that. on the other hand, maybe it would great for her to suffer his anger and wrath without me there to intervene! So, this morning, I woke her up to remind her that she has a job and a family to be responsible to, let alone herself and well being. I reminded her that she JUST got her license back and it would extremely foolish to lose it now over a few beers (likely a 40 oz or two with Monkeyboy) and I reminded her that Monkeyboy knows she's not really supposed to be drinking and if he really cared about her, he would not encourage it! I told her that her time on our insurance is supposed to expire in January but I think it's time she found her own right now, because I don't want her foolishness to ruin our insurance premiums! Today is H's birthday, so I also told her to get her @$$ out of bed and tidy the house & make him a card. And take a shower. She's such a twit. I am not ready to throw her out. I'm just not. But I really don't know what else I can do at this point. Anyone?