Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Trying to prepare myself for what's next
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 628577" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>The tone is loving and kind. I think an important piece of surviving what is happening to our children over the long run is choosing the intention to love them, and to love ourselves and our lives. It gets harder to love them with warmth and sincerity, harder to remember who they might have been, harder to remember what was lost. They bring us so little happiness, so little sense of a job well done.</p><p></p><p>All the good, day to day things that build adult relationship in other families do not happen, in our families. The family dinners, the holidays spent together, the sight and sound and feel of a successful child reflecting well onto us ~ we will need to count ourselves very fortunate indeed to have these things to comfort us, to provide successful, instead of shameful, identity for us, as we go on from here.</p><p></p><p>Without loving and successful children, it will be difficult for us to feel we have contributed something worthwhile to the world, and that we are worthwhile, ourselves. Holding an intent to love, cherish, and uphold ourselves while loving our wayward kids without judging them for who they are ~ wow, that is a hard thing.</p><p></p><p>That is a choice each of us makes in her heart, where no one can see. And yet, it will be the choice that determines who we become from this point.</p><p></p><p>So I would like to see you add something to that effect to your mission statement, COM. Something about cherishing and nurturing and choosing joy for yourself; maybe something about committing to believing there is a purpose here, though we may never see it.</p><p></p><p>Tish, thank you for the book suggestions. I will read them.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 628577, member: 17461"] The tone is loving and kind. I think an important piece of surviving what is happening to our children over the long run is choosing the intention to love them, and to love ourselves and our lives. It gets harder to love them with warmth and sincerity, harder to remember who they might have been, harder to remember what was lost. They bring us so little happiness, so little sense of a job well done. All the good, day to day things that build adult relationship in other families do not happen, in our families. The family dinners, the holidays spent together, the sight and sound and feel of a successful child reflecting well onto us ~ we will need to count ourselves very fortunate indeed to have these things to comfort us, to provide successful, instead of shameful, identity for us, as we go on from here. Without loving and successful children, it will be difficult for us to feel we have contributed something worthwhile to the world, and that we are worthwhile, ourselves. Holding an intent to love, cherish, and uphold ourselves while loving our wayward kids without judging them for who they are ~ wow, that is a hard thing. That is a choice each of us makes in her heart, where no one can see. And yet, it will be the choice that determines who we become from this point. So I would like to see you add something to that effect to your mission statement, COM. Something about cherishing and nurturing and choosing joy for yourself; maybe something about committing to believing there is a purpose here, though we may never see it. Tish, thank you for the book suggestions. I will read them. Cedar [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Trying to prepare myself for what's next
Top