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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 628659" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I don't know whether to think our difficult child kids do manipulative, painful things on purpose. I have posted before about my daughter and the FB pictures. There have been other times too, with both difficult children. And each time, I have been blasted into the FOG so deeply that I am vulnerable in ways I was not, prior to the manipulation.</p><p></p><p>I just don't know whether they do those things to us on purpose...but as Recovering pointed out to me, that might be just what is happening.</p><p></p><p>I understand your wanting to spend time with your son spirit to spirit, COM. That is what you are talking about when you post about appearing empty handed, I think. You would need to be very strong, to do that.</p><p></p><p>But...you are right. When I think of all the helping, it has all come from that FOG place. And there is nothing honest or honorable or even, real, about that FOG place.</p><p></p><p>I keep thinking about that imagery.</p><p></p><p>Empty hands means this is a real interaction. No one is being bought or sold.</p><p></p><p>That is good imagery, COM.</p><p></p><p>Thank you. Another really fine tool for me. That simple imagery of empty hands.</p><p></p><p>I love that.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 628659, member: 17461"] I don't know whether to think our difficult child kids do manipulative, painful things on purpose. I have posted before about my daughter and the FB pictures. There have been other times too, with both difficult children. And each time, I have been blasted into the FOG so deeply that I am vulnerable in ways I was not, prior to the manipulation. I just don't know whether they do those things to us on purpose...but as Recovering pointed out to me, that might be just what is happening. I understand your wanting to spend time with your son spirit to spirit, COM. That is what you are talking about when you post about appearing empty handed, I think. You would need to be very strong, to do that. But...you are right. When I think of all the helping, it has all come from that FOG place. And there is nothing honest or honorable or even, real, about that FOG place. I keep thinking about that imagery. Empty hands means this is a real interaction. No one is being bought or sold. That is good imagery, COM. Thank you. Another really fine tool for me. That simple imagery of empty hands. I love that. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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