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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 660301" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Hi Okie Girl, at 43 he should not be coming to you for anything. All in all I think you handled it very well. One of the smartest things you can do is to not accept mail.</p><p></p><p>Did you get ahold of your insurance company? I would be very concerned about why they would be leaving a message for your son who is not on your policy. I agree with [USER=1233]@susiestar[/USER] about telling your insurance company that he is not authorized to do anything with your policy.</p><p></p><p>One thing I have learned about my son and I'm sure it hold true for many of our Difficult Child is that they will go to any length to get what they want. When my son was in jail (one of the many times) and was preparing to be released, he called me and said the only way he could get an ID was if I gave him my social security number. I told him under no circumstances was I going to give him that information. Then he started accusing me of not loving him, blah, blah, blah. I told him if the prison would confirm that this was true I would consider it. He finished the phone call with "just forget it" and hung up. Just out of curiosity I contacted the prison and asked, they told me this was a common ploy by inmates and for the unlucky parents who did give their SS# their Difficult Child would get out jail and get credit cards under the parents names.</p><p></p><p>Do what you have to and make sure your identity is protected.</p><p></p><p></p><p>This is great advice and really works. It keeps it simple. I have used this myself and there were times when my son would just keep at me and I would just repeat the same thing over and over, he grew tired of it and quit asking.</p><p></p><p>If you prefer to just text then let him know that, set that boundary.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I completely agree!!</p><p></p><p>((HUGS)) to you........................</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 660301, member: 18516"] Hi Okie Girl, at 43 he should not be coming to you for anything. All in all I think you handled it very well. One of the smartest things you can do is to not accept mail. Did you get ahold of your insurance company? I would be very concerned about why they would be leaving a message for your son who is not on your policy. I agree with [USER=1233]@susiestar[/USER] about telling your insurance company that he is not authorized to do anything with your policy. One thing I have learned about my son and I'm sure it hold true for many of our Difficult Child is that they will go to any length to get what they want. When my son was in jail (one of the many times) and was preparing to be released, he called me and said the only way he could get an ID was if I gave him my social security number. I told him under no circumstances was I going to give him that information. Then he started accusing me of not loving him, blah, blah, blah. I told him if the prison would confirm that this was true I would consider it. He finished the phone call with "just forget it" and hung up. Just out of curiosity I contacted the prison and asked, they told me this was a common ploy by inmates and for the unlucky parents who did give their SS# their Difficult Child would get out jail and get credit cards under the parents names. Do what you have to and make sure your identity is protected. This is great advice and really works. It keeps it simple. I have used this myself and there were times when my son would just keep at me and I would just repeat the same thing over and over, he grew tired of it and quit asking. If you prefer to just text then let him know that, set that boundary. I completely agree!! ((HUGS)) to you........................ [/QUOTE]
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