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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 717998" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Yep. Its sad.</p><p></p><p>But you can find a city with a shelter or rehab, even if you dont have one right around the corner. He cant live with you anymore. You know this.</p><p></p><p>This is just a thought. Your parents may be in their 50s, and thats not so old. On the other hand they can be near 70 or in their 70s. If they are frail or sickly maybe it is time to stop confiding in them about Son. Their welfare matters, as does yours. They can do no more than you and they can get very sick with worry. Again, no criticism meant. Just an idea.</p><p></p><p>Of course if Son calls them, you have no control over that. My guess is the three of you have been hovering over Son for too long and he expects to be rescued and is less inclined to get professional help because all of you will take care of him if he threatens to hurt himself.</p><p></p><p>But your husbsnd and girls need you too and likely they are kinder to you and rightfully angry at Son.</p><p></p><p>I know this is very hard, even harder to do alone. I had no family help. But this mess is created by your son. He isnt the only person in the family. And he doesnt seem to want to get better.</p><p></p><p>Take care. Remember...the rest of you all matter as much as Son. Fussing over him may hold him back from things getting bad enough that he wants help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 717998, member: 1550"] Yep. Its sad. But you can find a city with a shelter or rehab, even if you dont have one right around the corner. He cant live with you anymore. You know this. This is just a thought. Your parents may be in their 50s, and thats not so old. On the other hand they can be near 70 or in their 70s. If they are frail or sickly maybe it is time to stop confiding in them about Son. Their welfare matters, as does yours. They can do no more than you and they can get very sick with worry. Again, no criticism meant. Just an idea. Of course if Son calls them, you have no control over that. My guess is the three of you have been hovering over Son for too long and he expects to be rescued and is less inclined to get professional help because all of you will take care of him if he threatens to hurt himself. But your husbsnd and girls need you too and likely they are kinder to you and rightfully angry at Son. I know this is very hard, even harder to do alone. I had no family help. But this mess is created by your son. He isnt the only person in the family. And he doesnt seem to want to get better. Take care. Remember...the rest of you all matter as much as Son. Fussing over him may hold him back from things getting bad enough that he wants help. [/QUOTE]
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