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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 284367" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>It is really hard to even think about this, isn't it? </p><p></p><p>Have you drug tested your difficult child? If you haven't, or if it only tested for a few substances, then I would go and ask the doctor to do the most comprehensive test for drugs. A urine test at a minimum, and maybe a hair test. Make sure he is at the docs before you tell him about the drug test. I would even tell my son it is just routine to check for infection or whatever. Even "a baseline as part of a well check" might work. </p><p></p><p>The behaviors can possible be caused by drug or alcohol abuse. So you need to rule them out definitively. If he is using there is very little that can be done until he is clean. It may take a lockdown facility to help.</p><p></p><p>You can get info on placements by making a TON of phone calls. Talk to the school resource officer (policeman assigned to the school) and ask if they know of any schools or programs that might help. If he gives you any info, then call those groups.</p><p></p><p>If you hit dead ends, then call the pastors/priests at every area church. Explain briefly and ask if they know of any groups taht help kids like our difficult children. You will make a LOT of calls in following up. You will explain things to a TON of people. I filled an entire legal pad with calls to contacts. </p><p></p><p>Every place that can't help you should be asked if they know of any groups/schools/placements to help families. Even go and talk to guidance counsellors at any school he went to.</p><p></p><p>Also try Lions Club and Rotary club groups. here the Lions club has a facility for boys like difficult children.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I know how hard this is because I had to have my oldest removed from our house. We had 2 months of uncertainty when he got kicked out of the shelter and then the Deputy wouldn't write up the incident report or let me press charges, the CPS guy said we were doing it right and they wouldn't help either. The judge just left us hanging, in my opinion.</p><p></p><p>Blessed is my family because my dad had retired and was qualified to handle Wiz. Now Wiz is a wonderful young man with a very bright future. </p><p></p><p>Keep calling, even up to the federal legislators for your area. The squeekier the wheel the more you will benefit.</p><p></p><p></p><p>If there is physical violence then a domestic violence facility should be able to at least give counselling. If difficult child is abusing a sibling then it would best protect YOU if you report the violence. Or have the doctor report it for you (would get doctor on your side and doctor could substantiate that difficult child was the violent one, not you). If it goes unreported and someone notices a younger child shows signs of abuse you could be in a world of trouble. </p><p></p><p>Sorry if I wrote a book. I hope you can find some help and of course that you stick around here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 284367, member: 1233"] It is really hard to even think about this, isn't it? Have you drug tested your difficult child? If you haven't, or if it only tested for a few substances, then I would go and ask the doctor to do the most comprehensive test for drugs. A urine test at a minimum, and maybe a hair test. Make sure he is at the docs before you tell him about the drug test. I would even tell my son it is just routine to check for infection or whatever. Even "a baseline as part of a well check" might work. The behaviors can possible be caused by drug or alcohol abuse. So you need to rule them out definitively. If he is using there is very little that can be done until he is clean. It may take a lockdown facility to help. You can get info on placements by making a TON of phone calls. Talk to the school resource officer (policeman assigned to the school) and ask if they know of any schools or programs that might help. If he gives you any info, then call those groups. If you hit dead ends, then call the pastors/priests at every area church. Explain briefly and ask if they know of any groups taht help kids like our difficult children. You will make a LOT of calls in following up. You will explain things to a TON of people. I filled an entire legal pad with calls to contacts. Every place that can't help you should be asked if they know of any groups/schools/placements to help families. Even go and talk to guidance counsellors at any school he went to. Also try Lions Club and Rotary club groups. here the Lions club has a facility for boys like difficult children. I know how hard this is because I had to have my oldest removed from our house. We had 2 months of uncertainty when he got kicked out of the shelter and then the Deputy wouldn't write up the incident report or let me press charges, the CPS guy said we were doing it right and they wouldn't help either. The judge just left us hanging, in my opinion. Blessed is my family because my dad had retired and was qualified to handle Wiz. Now Wiz is a wonderful young man with a very bright future. Keep calling, even up to the federal legislators for your area. The squeekier the wheel the more you will benefit. If there is physical violence then a domestic violence facility should be able to at least give counselling. If difficult child is abusing a sibling then it would best protect YOU if you report the violence. Or have the doctor report it for you (would get doctor on your side and doctor could substantiate that difficult child was the violent one, not you). If it goes unreported and someone notices a younger child shows signs of abuse you could be in a world of trouble. Sorry if I wrote a book. I hope you can find some help and of course that you stick around here. [/QUOTE]
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