We are scheduled to start visits between kt & wm with Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) staff (I'm not included due to the added non stop competition) this coming Thursday. Saying that, there have been short visits with extended family here a few times this year that have been absolutely wonderful & gave me hopes that there could be a sibling relationship between the two of them. My family (dad, sisters, & brother in law) came to town this past Friday. We planned a small birthday party of sort for kt & wm (who haven't celebrated together in 5 years). My sis & I thought it would be nice for the tweedles to finally share a birthday (however belated). When family has been here kt & wm have tolerated each other well & seemed to enjoy each other's company. My family had been very impressed over the past few months & visits. This past Friday all heck broke loose between the tweedles. wm became physically, sexually & verbally threatening very quickly. Told kt he deliberately destroyed some of her most treasured items so he could "control her". kt stood her ground even though I instructed her to go to her safe place while I handled wm. Let's just say my brother in law had to restrain wm ~ kt needed to be hauled out of the room. It was all so very ugly so quickly. (My dad was just stunned & sat in the living room in tears. He wasn't aware of the level of stress that goes on here in my home. I'm so sorry he had to witness this.) We removed wm physically & hauled him out to the car; I drove while wm screamed at the top of his lungs. brother in law did his best & was able to "talk wm down"; redirect him. Dad just sat in the front seat as I drove holding my hand. My sisters & niece stayed with kt watching her go dissociative. I was called while driving wm home & I asked that they give kt a prn & use some quiet sensory exercises with her. After 90 minutes of driving, I came home to a 6 year old kt, cold pizzas & somewhat stunned family. wm is no longer welcome in my home as he was going for the knives. Miss kt is being watched closely for further signs of regression. And I will never attempt this again....period. It's not worth the damage to all our psyche's. The first of the one on one visits are hereby canceled. Again, simply not worth it. I'm frightened of my growing, demanding, controlling, verbally & sexually aggressive son. I'm asking the team to immediately bump up the search for an adult facility for him. I can do no more for him. I will not risk it. I'm not sure how much more I can do for kt. However, she is far more stable & self aware. We'll see about her. Thanks for the shoulder, ear, whatever, ladies. I'm exhausted.