First one is easy 1) did you receive a lot less Christmas cards this year or even make the decision to send less than in the past or not send them when you have previously? I reduced my list about four years ago, but still send about 25-30. 2) a friend of mine, not a super close friend, but a friend never the less, has changed her habits this year. We belong in a mutual club together and would meet for lunch perhaps two or three times a year separate from that. We take care of each other's pets while on vacations...however since we visit family very often, I've hired a local college kid to do most of mine because I feel it would be unfair to her since we are out of town more often. Last year and this year she didn't send her usual Xmas card. I've also noticed that I'm always the one who does th lunch inviting. This last year, I only mentioned it once (lunch) saying something like (in a text) "how about we go to lunch next week" and she never wrote back. Consequently, we never went out to lunch for an entire year. I sent her a Xmas card last year and this year. But, never got one as in the past. I also send her a text at Thanksgiving, but she didn't reply. (I was out of town). So, today, I swallowed my pride, called her and asked her if everything was ok and if I accidentally hurt her feelings. I sensed she was a little upset. Nothing big, but "off." She said she was fine and just didn't have time to send cards this year. I didn't have the heart to mention what happened last year (no card last year either). I did casually throw into the conversation that a few of my friends didn't have time to send cards this year, but I got emails and texts from them. I'm going to simply let this go. I don't think I have a choice. My best guess is something is wrong, but it's NOT me. Maybe depression. Who knows. But, I don't thinks it's me. We were not super close, but we were clearly friends and now I'm not really sure. She doesn't hesitate to call me to watch her pet or take in her mail, but that's about it, especially this year. Any thoughts??? Happy Holidays!