We saw our son today. He hadn't shaved, but other than that he looked ok. He's got the money for the rent on April 1st. He has a couple of job leads, but hasn't applied. Still figuring out what he wants to do. Offered to help him in May if he goes to Intensive Outpatient like all the MH professionals are recommending, and if he gets a part time job on the weekends. No, he says, therapy doesn't do any good. We mentioned food banks, calling 311 for social service links, a return to a nicer sober living place (adamantly refuses, says they bully him and his mental health will go down the tubes). I pointed out to him that he moved out of sober living a year ago and since then, his work performance has gone down since August....two suspensions, then fired this month. Two ER visits and one hospitalization for dangerously high alcohol abuse, and another incident where we suspected he was drinking but we didn't do anything since he has refused treatment every time. He is in complete denial and does not make the connection. He kept arguing about how he was suspended this other time because he was late, I said yes, that was when u were abusing kratom and the sober house had no idea, he said no, that wasn't it, and it just evolved into my memory versus his. Useless. I will call the social service agency that he used to be involved with. Maybe they can get him a cheaper place to live and some supports. Maybe he just can't hold down a job, because of his multiple mental health issues, let alone the substance abuse. It's just amazing that he managed to keep the one he lost for four years.I have an appointment with Social Security next week, as they stopped his payments for some reason known only to them. I am just sick and tired of it all, and I've now come to the point that as long as he's fed, clothed, and housed, I'll be content with that. In the meantime, he's not worried, but we, his parents, are on psychotropic medications now. We are managing to hold it together, but it's tough.