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Ugh the pressure has started.....need strength
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 629249" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Once we say no, then we get hit with their anger. It's really not about the canteen, it's about him not having control in jail, and trying to control something. Or someone. </p><p></p><p>What about our anger? We are so sick and tired of this. I am angry at the disease, at the relentless nature of it all, at difficult child's refusal to face reality, at so many things.</p><p></p><p>TL, they are okay in jail. Not great, but okay. My difficult child has now been there either 8 or 9 times. The last several times (3 or 4, lost count) I haven't put a penny on an account and nobody else in our family has either. </p><p></p><p>Don't fall for the sob stories. Why should we give them money when all they do is the same thing over and over again? </p><p></p><p>If the money was helping someone who was trying to help themselves, then that makes some sense. Helping fund the revolving door of jail makes no sense to me. I am not responsible for paying for your incidentals out of jail---why would I pay for them when you are in jail.</p><p></p><p>Memo to difficult child: Stay out of jail. Then you don't need money in a canteen.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, TL, hang in there. Decide what you want to do and will do whatever it is. Write it down. Don't get sidetracked by difficult child. Stick to your decisions whatever they are.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to you tonight.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 629249, member: 17542"] Once we say no, then we get hit with their anger. It's really not about the canteen, it's about him not having control in jail, and trying to control something. Or someone. What about our anger? We are so sick and tired of this. I am angry at the disease, at the relentless nature of it all, at difficult child's refusal to face reality, at so many things. TL, they are okay in jail. Not great, but okay. My difficult child has now been there either 8 or 9 times. The last several times (3 or 4, lost count) I haven't put a penny on an account and nobody else in our family has either. Don't fall for the sob stories. Why should we give them money when all they do is the same thing over and over again? If the money was helping someone who was trying to help themselves, then that makes some sense. Helping fund the revolving door of jail makes no sense to me. I am not responsible for paying for your incidentals out of jail---why would I pay for them when you are in jail. Memo to difficult child: Stay out of jail. Then you don't need money in a canteen. Anyway, TL, hang in there. Decide what you want to do and will do whatever it is. Write it down. Don't get sidetracked by difficult child. Stick to your decisions whatever they are. Hugs to you tonight. [/QUOTE]
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