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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 629268" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>Thanks MWM....I put in less than I have in the past, and he did go on about how it is cold and he cant get a sweatshirt etc. Too bad it is summer. I am willing to put some in each week but not a lot.... it is true that we cant send them anything so the only way they can get anything is through the canteen. He did gain weight the last time he was in jail which I think was due to the snacks he was getting. LOL.</p><p></p><p>Funny on the adoption stories. When difficult child was about 9 he came home and told me that I wasnt his real mother! Another kid had told him if he was adopted then the person he called mom wasnt his real mom. So I looked at him and said I was very real and his birthmother was real. No one was fake in adoption we are all real. We ended up having this family joke about how I wasnt made of rubber that I was real.</p><p></p><p>I suspect that I would react the same way to my difficult child if he was a biological child. It just hurts so much when they are hurting and vulnerable. It may be pure manipulation on his part but it still works on me. I do much better with detachment when I am mad than when I am sad for him.</p><p></p><p>Anyway I feel ok putting some money in the canteen...I am reminded that although he is an adult he is only 22 and his maturity level is less than that.</p><p></p><p>TL</p><p></p><p></p><p>Sent using ConductDisorders mobile app</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 629268, member: 15801"] Thanks MWM....I put in less than I have in the past, and he did go on about how it is cold and he cant get a sweatshirt etc. Too bad it is summer. I am willing to put some in each week but not a lot.... it is true that we cant send them anything so the only way they can get anything is through the canteen. He did gain weight the last time he was in jail which I think was due to the snacks he was getting. LOL. Funny on the adoption stories. When difficult child was about 9 he came home and told me that I wasnt his real mother! Another kid had told him if he was adopted then the person he called mom wasnt his real mom. So I looked at him and said I was very real and his birthmother was real. No one was fake in adoption we are all real. We ended up having this family joke about how I wasnt made of rubber that I was real. I suspect that I would react the same way to my difficult child if he was a biological child. It just hurts so much when they are hurting and vulnerable. It may be pure manipulation on his part but it still works on me. I do much better with detachment when I am mad than when I am sad for him. Anyway I feel ok putting some money in the canteen...I am reminded that although he is an adult he is only 22 and his maturity level is less than that. TL Sent using ConductDisorders mobile app [/QUOTE]
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