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Ugh...What should I do now? Dad...
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<blockquote data-quote="tiredmommy" data-source="post: 59474" data-attributes="member: 1722"><p>Totoro,</p><p>Your father and my mother sound like a matched set. The big difference is that my mother and I have never completely fallen out of contact. You may have to take a similar tact to what I did with my mother. I had to do a lot of thinking about how I would handle my mother in our lives after Duckie was born due to her destructive & addiction-driven behaviors. What worked for us is that I was completely straight with her. I told her I didn't approve of many of her actions as a parent of a child, but I was willing to put that in the past. I was not, however, willing to put Duckie's well-being at risk. I looked her in the eye and said that if came down to choosing between her or my daughter that my daughter would win every time. She accused me of holding a grudge and setting her up to fail with her granddaughter, I told her those were the only terms available to her. She was to take them or leave them. No drinking or drugging around Duckie, no lascivious behavior, no trying to turn Duckie against husband and myself, no undermining our parenting. She would respect us or she would be cut from our lives. Forever. I told her I had the support of my husband, my brother (her son) & my father (her ex-h).</p><p>It's worked so far.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tiredmommy, post: 59474, member: 1722"] Totoro, Your father and my mother sound like a matched set. The big difference is that my mother and I have never completely fallen out of contact. You may have to take a similar tact to what I did with my mother. I had to do a lot of thinking about how I would handle my mother in our lives after Duckie was born due to her destructive & addiction-driven behaviors. What worked for us is that I was completely straight with her. I told her I didn't approve of many of her actions as a parent of a child, but I was willing to put that in the past. I was not, however, willing to put Duckie's well-being at risk. I looked her in the eye and said that if came down to choosing between her or my daughter that my daughter would win every time. She accused me of holding a grudge and setting her up to fail with her granddaughter, I told her those were the only terms available to her. She was to take them or leave them. No drinking or drugging around Duckie, no lascivious behavior, no trying to turn Duckie against husband and myself, no undermining our parenting. She would respect us or she would be cut from our lives. Forever. I told her I had the support of my husband, my brother (her son) & my father (her ex-h). It's worked so far. [/QUOTE]
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