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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 59550" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>Why is he writing from a PO box? That's really weird if he wants to be in contact with you or the girls. </p><p></p><p>If he really wants to leave something to you or the girls, he can just say "I leave 20% of my estate to Totoro and her two daughters to be shared equally." He doesn't need any particulars on any of you to do that. It would be up to the executor of his estate to get the money to you.</p><p></p><p>I honestly don't know that I would have held it together as much as you have if I were in your shoes. My parents will be 79 this year, and I haven't had contact since 2001. We parted on very bad terms. I wouldn't know what to think of a letter like that, other than that they were trying to grease the skids into heaven by asking forgiveness. I am glad that you told him how the girls are.</p><p></p><p>Don't let him into your life any more than you feel comfortable. Your relationship with him stands on it's own. He didn't care enough about you earlier on in your life to keep things civil enough that you would want him involved with your children. He rolled the dice and this is where he ends up. That's his burden. What you <em>don't</em> need it to put yourself in the position where you have to justify your relationship with your father to the girls. If he comes across now as their sweet grandpa whom you cut off, it will be a thorn in your side.</p><p></p><p>I don't know that I would do anything more than you have already done if I were in your shoes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 59550, member: 99"] Why is he writing from a PO box? That's really weird if he wants to be in contact with you or the girls. If he really wants to leave something to you or the girls, he can just say "I leave 20% of my estate to Totoro and her two daughters to be shared equally." He doesn't need any particulars on any of you to do that. It would be up to the executor of his estate to get the money to you. I honestly don't know that I would have held it together as much as you have if I were in your shoes. My parents will be 79 this year, and I haven't had contact since 2001. We parted on very bad terms. I wouldn't know what to think of a letter like that, other than that they were trying to grease the skids into heaven by asking forgiveness. I am glad that you told him how the girls are. Don't let him into your life any more than you feel comfortable. Your relationship with him stands on it's own. He didn't care enough about you earlier on in your life to keep things civil enough that you would want him involved with your children. He rolled the dice and this is where he ends up. That's his burden. What you [i]don't[/i] need it to put yourself in the position where you have to justify your relationship with your father to the girls. If he comes across now as their sweet grandpa whom you cut off, it will be a thorn in your side. I don't know that I would do anything more than you have already done if I were in your shoes. [/QUOTE]
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