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Ultimatum Given, now Trepidation....
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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 59085" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>Mickey, I am not critiquing please do not think that I am but I think that you give him too many choices and also that you have stated the same thing to him over and over and over again and have not acted on any of your conditions. Your difficult child has no confidence that you mean whet you say. It is like the wife who repeatedly tells her husband to shape up or she will leave but she never does and the husband never changes because he knows if he ignores her she will go away and leave him in peace for a few days, weeks , whatever. </p><p></p><p>I am so sorry you are against a wall. But true and definitive action on your part is long overdue. you have given your son chance after chance after chance and he just blows you off. I totally understand not wanting to put him out knowing that he will sink lower and lower into his drugie world but he has to hit his bottom and staying in your house isn't going to bring that bottom up to hit him smack in the face. some people just have to learn the hard way. I think your difficult child is one of those people.</p><p></p><p>As far as putting someone in a program that they don't buy into in my humble opinion that is just a big waste of your money and your heart. I am so sorry I am one who has been there done that. It is hard but it does get easier when they are out of the house a while. You will be amazed at how they manage to find food and shelter and still do their drugs. It stinks but the truth is you cannot help someone that refuses to help themselves. -RM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 59085, member: 2315"] Mickey, I am not critiquing please do not think that I am but I think that you give him too many choices and also that you have stated the same thing to him over and over and over again and have not acted on any of your conditions. Your difficult child has no confidence that you mean whet you say. It is like the wife who repeatedly tells her husband to shape up or she will leave but she never does and the husband never changes because he knows if he ignores her she will go away and leave him in peace for a few days, weeks , whatever. I am so sorry you are against a wall. But true and definitive action on your part is long overdue. you have given your son chance after chance after chance and he just blows you off. I totally understand not wanting to put him out knowing that he will sink lower and lower into his drugie world but he has to hit his bottom and staying in your house isn't going to bring that bottom up to hit him smack in the face. some people just have to learn the hard way. I think your difficult child is one of those people. As far as putting someone in a program that they don't buy into in my humble opinion that is just a big waste of your money and your heart. I am so sorry I am one who has been there done that. It is hard but it does get easier when they are out of the house a while. You will be amazed at how they manage to find food and shelter and still do their drugs. It stinks but the truth is you cannot help someone that refuses to help themselves. -RM [/QUOTE]
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