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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 59089" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Your difficult child has no confidence that you mean whet you say.</div></div></p><p></p><p>If so, he will find out how wrong he is this time. Until now, I still thought that "my son" was in there somewhere, waiting to be rescued. Now I know that to be the delusion it really is.</p><p></p><p>McWeedy, also, knows I mean business. I won't elaborate, but I also confronted him with some "hard evidence" that would be especially damaging if it got into the wrong hands. Not legally (to him), but could be bad for a lot of his friends. He knows it's true because I related word-for-word some of what I have, and he had that "Oh S___" look on his face. I followed that up with "I talked (anonymously) for an hour to a Narcotics detective to find out what <em>could</em> happen if you got arrested..."</p><p></p><p>Told him I wasn't interested in getting any other kids in trouble. Their parents are responsible for dealing (or not dealing) with them and the consequences of their decisions. I'm only interested in MY kid. To the extent possible, if he won't make choices that are in his best interest, at least I can make him think twice about those choices from now until he leaves. I will NOT have the rest of my family put in legal jeopardy (civil OR criminal) because of him. If he chooses to hang around until 18 when he can leave, at least he won't put the rest of us at risk.</p><p></p><p>Maybe, though, the shock of knowing that I understand more of his world and his lies than he thought I did will also give him pause.</p><p></p><p>Like I said. I'm not his friend any more. He killed that in Orlando. Now I'm his Dad. But I'm also the Dad of two other kids who are trying hard to become somthing. And I'm the husband of a wonderful wife whom I love very much. Even if he doesn't value them, <strong>I DO!</strong>, and he will not disrespect them or put them in path of harm. If he's not willing to see that, then my son is truly gone and I'm dealing with a complete stranger. And strangers have no need to live under my roof, uninhibited and uncontrolled, for free.</p><p></p><p>Things are different now.</p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 59089, member: 3579"] <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Your difficult child has no confidence that you mean whet you say.</div></div> If so, he will find out how wrong he is this time. Until now, I still thought that "my son" was in there somewhere, waiting to be rescued. Now I know that to be the delusion it really is. McWeedy, also, knows I mean business. I won't elaborate, but I also confronted him with some "hard evidence" that would be especially damaging if it got into the wrong hands. Not legally (to him), but could be bad for a lot of his friends. He knows it's true because I related word-for-word some of what I have, and he had that "Oh S___" look on his face. I followed that up with "I talked (anonymously) for an hour to a Narcotics detective to find out what [i]could[/i] happen if you got arrested..." Told him I wasn't interested in getting any other kids in trouble. Their parents are responsible for dealing (or not dealing) with them and the consequences of their decisions. I'm only interested in MY kid. To the extent possible, if he won't make choices that are in his best interest, at least I can make him think twice about those choices from now until he leaves. I will NOT have the rest of my family put in legal jeopardy (civil OR criminal) because of him. If he chooses to hang around until 18 when he can leave, at least he won't put the rest of us at risk. Maybe, though, the shock of knowing that I understand more of his world and his lies than he thought I did will also give him pause. Like I said. I'm not his friend any more. He killed that in Orlando. Now I'm his Dad. But I'm also the Dad of two other kids who are trying hard to become somthing. And I'm the husband of a wonderful wife whom I love very much. Even if he doesn't value them, [b]I DO![/b], and he will not disrespect them or put them in path of harm. If he's not willing to see that, then my son is truly gone and I'm dealing with a complete stranger. And strangers have no need to live under my roof, uninhibited and uncontrolled, for free. Things are different now. Mikey [/QUOTE]
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