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Ultimatum Given, now Trepidation....
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<blockquote data-quote="jbrain" data-source="post: 59130" data-attributes="member: 3450"><p>Hi Mikey,</p><p>agreeing with the others here that you keep giving him more chances. But just wanted to say that you don't have to give up hope even if he does move out, keeps being a stoner, etc., appears to have given up on his life.</p><p></p><p>My dtr did all those things but she decided to make a fresh start and I think she's doing okay now. When I think of where she was just a few yrs ago I know she is doing much better. She was a terror from age 13-18--was sent to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and then a rehab during that time--didn't seem to really do any good but you never know what she took away from her experiences. I think the 2nd rehab did get her off hard drugs though she still smokes pot and drinks I think. But once she realized we were done financially helping her in any way she picked herself up and she works and supports herself now. She doesn't have to rebel anymore, we don't have any power over her and she likes being independent. I enjoy my relationship with her--it isn't as "close" as it used to be but that's fine--that closeness was also dysfunctional. We talk every couple of weeks and see each other ocasionally--she is always very nice to me and interested in the whole family. She is only 19 yrs old, should have graduated high school this year but dropped out in 9th grade and got her GED a little over a yr ago while in rehab.</p><p></p><p>I thought we would be estranged forever or that she would be dead or that she would just live on the streets--all those seemed like valid possibilities at various times in her life.</p><p></p><p>Don't give up hope!</p><p></p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jbrain, post: 59130, member: 3450"] Hi Mikey, agreeing with the others here that you keep giving him more chances. But just wanted to say that you don't have to give up hope even if he does move out, keeps being a stoner, etc., appears to have given up on his life. My dtr did all those things but she decided to make a fresh start and I think she's doing okay now. When I think of where she was just a few yrs ago I know she is doing much better. She was a terror from age 13-18--was sent to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and then a rehab during that time--didn't seem to really do any good but you never know what she took away from her experiences. I think the 2nd rehab did get her off hard drugs though she still smokes pot and drinks I think. But once she realized we were done financially helping her in any way she picked herself up and she works and supports herself now. She doesn't have to rebel anymore, we don't have any power over her and she likes being independent. I enjoy my relationship with her--it isn't as "close" as it used to be but that's fine--that closeness was also dysfunctional. We talk every couple of weeks and see each other ocasionally--she is always very nice to me and interested in the whole family. She is only 19 yrs old, should have graduated high school this year but dropped out in 9th grade and got her GED a little over a yr ago while in rehab. I thought we would be estranged forever or that she would be dead or that she would just live on the streets--all those seemed like valid possibilities at various times in her life. Don't give up hope! Jane [/QUOTE]
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