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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 695252" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Rebelson</p><p></p><p>My son has horrible anxiety also and I know that is what led him to drug use. He takes Effexor and says it helps. He has never said anything else helps. But how could he have known if he was using drugs intermittently anyway! We think that is the root of his problems.</p><p></p><p>I can SO relate to your post.</p><p></p><p>My son is not using the resources at his IOP wisely either. It makes me very angry. </p><p></p><p>I do not know what YOU can do for him if he doesn't really want to get to the bottom of it. I agree with SWOT, anxiety is no excuse for drug or alcohol use (for my son or yours) but I do remember my son's first psychiatrist telling me that if you go into a prison, almost every one in there suffers from anxiety and/or depression. That is frightening. </p><p></p><p>My son has said that his anxiety makes him feel very weak also. I think drug abuse would make ME feel weaker than anything though!</p><p></p><p>Sometimes I think total openness with our addicts is not always the best way to go. And right now being TOO close to my son emotionally for me is not good for ME. At all.</p><p></p><p>I have always been super focused on not hurting my son either or letting him know how much he has hurt us. As Darkwing says, that is not good. I'm rethinking all of that now. I no longer am trying to keep him in that bubble.</p><p></p><p>If you feel you need to take a break from him to regroup - then do it! You need to tell him you are overwhelmed right now. That is what I did and it helped me a lot. I still have no plans to get in cozy with him for now. Not until I see SOMETHING - some of the changes I told him I need to see. I don't think he can work on growing up if I am hovering or he knows we are there to catch him each time. I told him yesterday he is an adult and he'll figure it out. And I wish he would.</p><p></p><p>This is so hard and I wish I had some answers for you (and myself)! Hugs and stay strong.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 695252, member: 15032"] Rebelson My son has horrible anxiety also and I know that is what led him to drug use. He takes Effexor and says it helps. He has never said anything else helps. But how could he have known if he was using drugs intermittently anyway! We think that is the root of his problems. I can SO relate to your post. My son is not using the resources at his IOP wisely either. It makes me very angry. I do not know what YOU can do for him if he doesn't really want to get to the bottom of it. I agree with SWOT, anxiety is no excuse for drug or alcohol use (for my son or yours) but I do remember my son's first psychiatrist telling me that if you go into a prison, almost every one in there suffers from anxiety and/or depression. That is frightening. My son has said that his anxiety makes him feel very weak also. I think drug abuse would make ME feel weaker than anything though! Sometimes I think total openness with our addicts is not always the best way to go. And right now being TOO close to my son emotionally for me is not good for ME. At all. I have always been super focused on not hurting my son either or letting him know how much he has hurt us. As Darkwing says, that is not good. I'm rethinking all of that now. I no longer am trying to keep him in that bubble. If you feel you need to take a break from him to regroup - then do it! You need to tell him you are overwhelmed right now. That is what I did and it helped me a lot. I still have no plans to get in cozy with him for now. Not until I see SOMETHING - some of the changes I told him I need to see. I don't think he can work on growing up if I am hovering or he knows we are there to catch him each time. I told him yesterday he is an adult and he'll figure it out. And I wish he would. This is so hard and I wish I had some answers for you (and myself)! Hugs and stay strong. [/QUOTE]
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