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<blockquote data-quote="Sister's Keeper" data-source="post: 695330" data-attributes="member: 20051"><p>RS,</p><p></p><p>A few thoughts, and I don't want this to sound mean, but, don't let him use anxiety as an excuse. I am not doubting that he has anxiety, but so do many, many people, and they don't abuse substances.</p><p></p><p>I think, in a way, he knows that he can manipulate you through use of his anxiety so that you will feel sorry for him, not angry at him, for relapsing, or using your money to buy liquor, which you know he did at the liquor store. </p><p></p><p>The "skin crawling" thing could be many things from side effects of the DXM to alcohol withdrawal, to anxiety. I wouldn't put much stock in in or it's symptoms. </p><p></p><p>Recovery isn't supposed to be comfortable or easy. When you are in group or in therapy discussing addiction issues it will be uncomfortable they are discussing difficult things. Part of recovery is learning to deal with strong emotions and feelings without numbing yourself. </p><p></p><p>Never give an addict money. I get he needed dental work. Talk to the dentist personally and pay personally. Trust me, I have learned this the hard way LOL.</p><p></p><p>If it were me, I would absolutely confront him about this behavior. About lying about the amount of the dental bill, about using your money to buy alcohol. ...and, yes, they know how to beat the breathalyzer. It is very easy to google how quickly alcohol dissipates from your system and easy to figure out how long a period of time you have to allow between your last drink and the breathalyzer.</p><p></p><p>Remember, you know an addict is lying when their lips are moving.</p><p></p><p>I truly believe that they don't want to be addicts, that they are not happy and don't enjoy the life they lead. I also think that even though they are miserable, they don't want to do the work it takes to get sober.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sister's Keeper, post: 695330, member: 20051"] RS, A few thoughts, and I don't want this to sound mean, but, don't let him use anxiety as an excuse. I am not doubting that he has anxiety, but so do many, many people, and they don't abuse substances. I think, in a way, he knows that he can manipulate you through use of his anxiety so that you will feel sorry for him, not angry at him, for relapsing, or using your money to buy liquor, which you know he did at the liquor store. The "skin crawling" thing could be many things from side effects of the DXM to alcohol withdrawal, to anxiety. I wouldn't put much stock in in or it's symptoms. Recovery isn't supposed to be comfortable or easy. When you are in group or in therapy discussing addiction issues it will be uncomfortable they are discussing difficult things. Part of recovery is learning to deal with strong emotions and feelings without numbing yourself. Never give an addict money. I get he needed dental work. Talk to the dentist personally and pay personally. Trust me, I have learned this the hard way LOL. If it were me, I would absolutely confront him about this behavior. About lying about the amount of the dental bill, about using your money to buy alcohol. ...and, yes, they know how to beat the breathalyzer. It is very easy to google how quickly alcohol dissipates from your system and easy to figure out how long a period of time you have to allow between your last drink and the breathalyzer. Remember, you know an addict is lying when their lips are moving. I truly believe that they don't want to be addicts, that they are not happy and don't enjoy the life they lead. I also think that even though they are miserable, they don't want to do the work it takes to get sober. [/QUOTE]
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