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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 667938" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>What a time you have had dear cyber friend with health issues as well. I do hope and pray for you that you continue to have good health. Thank you for the time you take to help others through your experience. </p><p></p><p>I am trying to opt OFF the roller coaster! Not easy! I have realized through comments made by my daughters boyfriend (grandbabie's daddy) that their definition of unconditional love is twisted towards enabling them to continue status quo. The other morning he called as I was getting ready for work "We need to find this and that and I need to come over and look for it, etc.etc." </p><p>Sheesh- you didn't know this the night before? I am realizing that the old "drop everything and help us" attitude is still in place. This continues the frenzy into my life and it is evident that these people have no concept of the chaos they bring upon others.</p><p></p><p>So I told him, "You need to learn to make better plans and to be considerate of others."</p><p>He went on about how we "kicked out my daughter and grandchildren" to which I replied "We did not kick them out, she chose to leave and the door closed." He then went on about how his family "loves" each other no matter what, drugs, domestic violence, been through it all and are still there for each other. I told him that there is a time when enough is enough, that we are not rugs to be tread upon, that our helping has not been helping, they need to make better choices and focus on taking responsibility and caring for themselves and their children.</p><p></p><p>This unconditional love that they expect from us has nothing to do with their own decision making. </p><p></p><p>They have NO accountability for themselves and how they love and respect us as parents.</p><p></p><p>Trying to stay strong and continue soul searching and self work to get through this latest chapter.</p><p></p><p>Each passing day brings it's own challenges and I pray for strength and for the well being and blessings for my family.</p><p></p><p>Thank you so much for your loving support! </p><p></p><p>Trying to focus on bringing back the joy in my heart. I hope for all that you are able to accomplish that too, in spite of the troubles you are dealing with.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 667938, member: 19522"] What a time you have had dear cyber friend with health issues as well. I do hope and pray for you that you continue to have good health. Thank you for the time you take to help others through your experience. I am trying to opt OFF the roller coaster! Not easy! I have realized through comments made by my daughters boyfriend (grandbabie's daddy) that their definition of unconditional love is twisted towards enabling them to continue status quo. The other morning he called as I was getting ready for work "We need to find this and that and I need to come over and look for it, etc.etc." Sheesh- you didn't know this the night before? I am realizing that the old "drop everything and help us" attitude is still in place. This continues the frenzy into my life and it is evident that these people have no concept of the chaos they bring upon others. So I told him, "You need to learn to make better plans and to be considerate of others." He went on about how we "kicked out my daughter and grandchildren" to which I replied "We did not kick them out, she chose to leave and the door closed." He then went on about how his family "loves" each other no matter what, drugs, domestic violence, been through it all and are still there for each other. I told him that there is a time when enough is enough, that we are not rugs to be tread upon, that our helping has not been helping, they need to make better choices and focus on taking responsibility and caring for themselves and their children. This unconditional love that they expect from us has nothing to do with their own decision making. They have NO accountability for themselves and how they love and respect us as parents. Trying to stay strong and continue soul searching and self work to get through this latest chapter. Each passing day brings it's own challenges and I pray for strength and for the well being and blessings for my family. Thank you so much for your loving support! Trying to focus on bringing back the joy in my heart. I hope for all that you are able to accomplish that too, in spite of the troubles you are dealing with. [/QUOTE]
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