I have a 17 yr old boy who is completely out of control. He was raised by his grandparents until he was 12 then his father took back over and I got him in my household almost 3 years ago. He's been out of control since he was 5 in my opinion. I wanted him tested for ADD/ADHD back then but his grandmother was a RN then and is now a FNP. She insisted my son was fine and so no treatment was given to him. Now he's been out of control for years. Theirs been drug abuse, alcohol abuse, etc. His father couldn't control him so from about 11 to 14 he's been allowed to do as he pleased. I got custody a few years ago after he got into trouble and the judge realized his father didn't really care since he refused to attend court. I'm at the point I CAN'T handle anymore. He's brought drugs into my home after being told repeatedly not to. He would have friends over without permission and they'd stay for months. I had myself and 3-4 of my own kids in a 2 bedroom home not including the rif raf he brought in which eventually led to some of his friends robbing over 30K worth of stuff from my landlord which resulted in me losing my home. I moved in with my boyfriend who has tried to bond with my son but he continued to be a jerk and threatens things mostly to me. My boyfriend would prefer him out of the home (as have anyone I've dated since he was 5) all due to his behavior and mouth . He has recently taken my 14 yr old daughter off for the weekend and we had no idea where they were for the whole weekend. He skips school (he's a 17 yr old freshman) or he refuses to go to school and now that you can't discipline your child anymore I can't force him to go. I've had several back surgeries so I "fight " him anyway. He's disrespectful at home and at school. I have absolutely no control. He's verbally abusive and has been physically abusive definitely mentally abusive. I love my child but I also hate my child and I know that's a horrible thing to say. He's made my life miserable in so many areas. He's a thief, a liar, a drug abuser, and is just an all around hateful individual who thinks the world owes him and I feel like only thing I owe him is a really good butt beating. I feel awful for despising my own child but he has totally disrupted our way of life. The 14 yr old has resorted to cutting (upon his recommendation for attention). I am at a loss right now. Just today alone I have been called a bit*# a no good for nothing whore a horrible excuse for a mother etc. But his own father says he doesn't want him so I put him inside my home and it was the biggest mistake I've ever made. I don't know how to punish him anymore. I've dealt with CPS several times cause of the lies he's told school and he's also convinced my daughter to tell lies to school, her grandparents, etc to try to keep me in trouble for something in which they've never succeeded. I need to know what options I have in TN to get this kid out of my home and away from my other kids. Please help. Any advice on the daughter that cuts would be helpful as well. I feel like I'm fighting a losing battle constantly and the longer he's here the worse my other two get. Thanks for your help.