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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 661173" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>In spite of his challenges only HE can get help for them, and they are definitely treatable. He is doing nothing to address his issues, either drug abuse or his other problems. There are free mental health clinics all over the country.</p><p></p><p>My daughter lived at home. You know what she saw? People shooting up drugs. Not in the hosue, of course, but she wasn't always in the house and she chose to hang around with folks who shoot up. Your son is n Occupational Therapist (OT) going to be shielded by you if he lives with you. He will only be more emotionally stunted and unable to care for himself. </p><p></p><p>Until he decides to take care of his problems, as an adult should, there is absolutely nothing you can do to help him. He has to be 100% on board with changing and do the work himself. Many very shy people get over it or deal with it even though they are not over it. I have an autistic son who works and has learned to deal with people, although it is hard to take that first step...he does it. He lives on his own. I am very proud of him for pushing himself and doing a good job at work. Unless your son is autistic, he can't be any more socially clueless than mine.</p><p></p><p>I wish you good luck and hope you don't fall into the trap of "he's home now, he's gone now, we'll rent him an apartment, he left and trashed the apartment and now we are liable...he is old enough to get his act together. My son is also 21 and was born with drugs in his system. He was adopted. If he can live a happy life, and he does, so can your son. He just has to want to do it. Did we help our son? Yes, but he wasn't taking drugs and he was respectful to us and of the law. Whole different story. He was a hard worker and did his best.j</p><p></p><p>Your son can do better. You KNOW he can.</p><p></p><p>Good luck <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 661173, member: 1550"] In spite of his challenges only HE can get help for them, and they are definitely treatable. He is doing nothing to address his issues, either drug abuse or his other problems. There are free mental health clinics all over the country. My daughter lived at home. You know what she saw? People shooting up drugs. Not in the hosue, of course, but she wasn't always in the house and she chose to hang around with folks who shoot up. Your son is n Occupational Therapist (OT) going to be shielded by you if he lives with you. He will only be more emotionally stunted and unable to care for himself. Until he decides to take care of his problems, as an adult should, there is absolutely nothing you can do to help him. He has to be 100% on board with changing and do the work himself. Many very shy people get over it or deal with it even though they are not over it. I have an autistic son who works and has learned to deal with people, although it is hard to take that first step...he does it. He lives on his own. I am very proud of him for pushing himself and doing a good job at work. Unless your son is autistic, he can't be any more socially clueless than mine. I wish you good luck and hope you don't fall into the trap of "he's home now, he's gone now, we'll rent him an apartment, he left and trashed the apartment and now we are liable...he is old enough to get his act together. My son is also 21 and was born with drugs in his system. He was adopted. If he can live a happy life, and he does, so can your son. He just has to want to do it. Did we help our son? Yes, but he wasn't taking drugs and he was respectful to us and of the law. Whole different story. He was a hard worker and did his best.j Your son can do better. You KNOW he can. Good luck :) [/QUOTE]
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