You said something that struck me and I’ve heard this before from a counselor. Sometimes we do things for us. That’s why I do it. And for her, so she can survive.
Wasn't the person your husband protected, you? Isn't he still doing this, to the extent he can?Afraid of not only the destruction she would reign upon him, but herself snd maybe others. Maybe he knew her better than I did. A friend suggested to me since I had pulled back significantly from her care, I was in no position to say much.