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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 703549" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>For D H and me, Alby, the question having to do with what we would need to see from our son before we would help was asked for our sakes. Not our son's sake. A child (of whatever age) vulnerable and on the streets is a living, breathing, ever-changing nightmare. There is no end to it. There is no answer. There is no comfort. It isn't only the horror of what is happening, it is the grief and loss and the sense of impending loss, in everything that is not happening. You did not do this, Albatross. You did not cause or create this. Someone you love more than your own life chose a dangerous path and you are his mother and there is no way to survive the nights for us. But...here we are. That is why D H and I were able to find comfort in asking that question, Alby. To give ourselves a place to stand so we could survive what was happening. People can suggest we detach...I could not. Worry and horror were destroying me. With the understanding that unless I saw certain things from my son, whatever help I did offer was not helping, but enabling an addiction to bite deeper, I was able to find the slimmest of footholds. And so, I was able to function, and to maintain a semblence of sanity. I like your thinking about giving your son the money once he has raised the first half. That is really good thinking, Alby.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 703549, member: 17461"] For D H and me, Alby, the question having to do with what we would need to see from our son before we would help was asked for our sakes. Not our son's sake. A child (of whatever age) vulnerable and on the streets is a living, breathing, ever-changing nightmare. There is no end to it. There is no answer. There is no comfort. It isn't only the horror of what is happening, it is the grief and loss and the sense of impending loss, in everything that is not happening. You did not do this, Albatross. You did not cause or create this. Someone you love more than your own life chose a dangerous path and you are his mother and there is no way to survive the nights for us. But...here we are. That is why D H and I were able to find comfort in asking that question, Alby. To give ourselves a place to stand so we could survive what was happening. People can suggest we detach...I could not. Worry and horror were destroying me. With the understanding that unless I saw certain things from my son, whatever help I did offer was not helping, but enabling an addiction to bite deeper, I was able to find the slimmest of footholds. And so, I was able to function, and to maintain a semblence of sanity. I like your thinking about giving your son the money once he has raised the first half. That is really good thinking, Alby. [/QUOTE]
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