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<blockquote data-quote="Weary Mother" data-source="post: 703596" data-attributes="member: 20487"><p>After reading this post and the responses, I believe I was intended to see this. My son who is now in prison and not freezing or starving, had been living as Albatross described, only my son was living in a shed, heated by a keresun heater, which when druggies pass out can be dangerous. When he ran out of fuel, there was no heat. He would call either me or his dad and tell us that the people he had been with were going to kill him or that they had kicked him and he was freezing and one of us would go the hour and a half and pick him up only to have him land right back there with in a week. We live near Chicago so it is very cold and windy in the winter and at times the temp was -20. We tried talking him into giving himself up (he had a warrant out for his arrest and he was hiding). No amount of talking would sway him and we who love him worried that he would freeze to death or be killed or die of an overdose (meth). I asked myself many times what to do and spent many days and nights crying, but in the end could not tolerate all of what was said here, fear of lifelong guilt if he died, worry that he would die and then just plain old frustration. So I went and so did his dad, and back and forth this went until something happened in the spring and he came to the town we live in and eventually he was arrested. I look back at those times and even now cry thinking of how hard that was on everyone and even on him. In the end he was tired of it too, but i guess addiction is so strong that he could never just go to the police station and give it up. He is now in a drug rehab ordered by the court, he is 48 and will be there a couple of years I think. I visited him Sunday and even though he looks, sounds and smells better I can still see the immaturity and willingness to break rules. For instance, the building he is in has 3 doors, each leading to a different dorm. The penalty for being found in a different dorm than you are assigned to is expulsion from the drug program. Well, he of course was up on a dorm he did not belong to and was heading back to his dorm, when a friend wanted to walk with him. He stopped to talk to someone, leaving the other person to go back alone. When he got down stairs, he found that his companion had been caught and was waiting to be removed, that fast!! So now he says since he sees how serious that is he won't do it again, and that everyone had been doing it and so he felt it was not a big deal. None of this is easy and as some here have pointed out, there are no sure answers. I am new here or kind of new and still trying to learn myself but really related to the post here, so again I am so happy and grateful to have found all of you on this forum, I still have a long way to go and appreciate being able to relate here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Weary Mother, post: 703596, member: 20487"] After reading this post and the responses, I believe I was intended to see this. My son who is now in prison and not freezing or starving, had been living as Albatross described, only my son was living in a shed, heated by a keresun heater, which when druggies pass out can be dangerous. When he ran out of fuel, there was no heat. He would call either me or his dad and tell us that the people he had been with were going to kill him or that they had kicked him and he was freezing and one of us would go the hour and a half and pick him up only to have him land right back there with in a week. We live near Chicago so it is very cold and windy in the winter and at times the temp was -20. We tried talking him into giving himself up (he had a warrant out for his arrest and he was hiding). No amount of talking would sway him and we who love him worried that he would freeze to death or be killed or die of an overdose (meth). I asked myself many times what to do and spent many days and nights crying, but in the end could not tolerate all of what was said here, fear of lifelong guilt if he died, worry that he would die and then just plain old frustration. So I went and so did his dad, and back and forth this went until something happened in the spring and he came to the town we live in and eventually he was arrested. I look back at those times and even now cry thinking of how hard that was on everyone and even on him. In the end he was tired of it too, but i guess addiction is so strong that he could never just go to the police station and give it up. He is now in a drug rehab ordered by the court, he is 48 and will be there a couple of years I think. I visited him Sunday and even though he looks, sounds and smells better I can still see the immaturity and willingness to break rules. For instance, the building he is in has 3 doors, each leading to a different dorm. The penalty for being found in a different dorm than you are assigned to is expulsion from the drug program. Well, he of course was up on a dorm he did not belong to and was heading back to his dorm, when a friend wanted to walk with him. He stopped to talk to someone, leaving the other person to go back alone. When he got down stairs, he found that his companion had been caught and was waiting to be removed, that fast!! So now he says since he sees how serious that is he won't do it again, and that everyone had been doing it and so he felt it was not a big deal. None of this is easy and as some here have pointed out, there are no sure answers. I am new here or kind of new and still trying to learn myself but really related to the post here, so again I am so happy and grateful to have found all of you on this forum, I still have a long way to go and appreciate being able to relate here. [/QUOTE]
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