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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 703961" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>Oh lordy, this is me.</p><p></p><p>I am the little girl who rides the roller coaster that terrifies her and makes her throw up, then steps right back in line to ride it again.</p><p></p><p>But I'm trying.</p><p></p><p>This week has been a crazy one.</p><p></p><p>Saturday --</p><p>Difficult Child: Mom, I'm leaving the weed farm. I need to make some money so I can pay my share of the ticket.</p><p>Me: OK, but don't leave until you know you have work lined up and your leg is better. Do you have a place to stay?</p><p>Difficult Child: Yes, my leg doesn't even hurt anymore and I got a spot at the winter shelter.</p><p></p><p>Monday--</p><p>Difficult Child: Mom, my leg hurts too much to work. Can you get the ticket and I'll pay you back?</p><p>Me: No, we can only pay half. Maybe see the doctor?</p><p></p><p>Tuesday--</p><p>Difficult Child: Mom, I'm just going to work on my hurt leg, but day labor has no work. Can you get the ticket and I'll pay you back?</p><p>Me: No, we can only pay half. Maybe get there earlier tomorrow?</p><p></p><p>Later Tuesday--</p><p>Difficult Child: Mom, it is -3 degrees with the wind chill and that is nothing to mess with. Can you get the ticket and I'll pay you back?</p><p>Me: No, we can only pay half. Did you get the list of places that provide coats I sent you last week? You have the hat and gloves I sent, right?</p><p></p><p>Wednesday--</p><p>Difficult Child: Mom, if I don't get the ticket today the price is going to go up $50 or more. Can you get the ticket and I'll pay you back?</p><p>Me: No, we can only pay half. I just looked and you can still leave on XX/XX and get the same deal.</p><p></p><p>Later Wednesday--</p><p>Difficult Child: Mom, I will be living in a sober living house when I get there and he can only hold my spot until XX/XX. Can you get the ticket and I'll pay you back?</p><p>Me: No, we can only pay half. Maybe see if he can work something out for you?</p><p></p><p>Later still Wednesday:</p><p>Difficult Child: Mom, I went to the doctor and got bad news on my blood work but I don't want to talk about it. I'm sorry I asked you for help. I'm just going to go live in the woods.</p><p>Me: Send me a copy of your labs? Why are you going to live in the woods instead of the winter shelter?</p><p></p><p>Thursday:</p><p>Difficult Child: Mom, got a great job at day labor.</p><p>Me: Great to hear!</p><p></p><p>Friday:</p><p>Difficult Child: Mom, it's so beautiful here. I think I am going to stick it out.</p><p>Me: OK, good luck!</p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes, I would say these are my goals too, and not easy to balance the sucker part vs. the boundaries part sometimes.</p><p></p><p>Reading over my conversation with him, even though I can see the efforts to manipulate, I feel so heartless. Sometimes I am very sad that I feel I must be this kind of mother. </p><p></p><p></p><p>Nailed it!</p><p></p><p>Jodie, I am sorry you and your son's dad had to go through that. I am so glad your son is safe for now and that you found us. Keep on posting. It helps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 703961, member: 17720"] Oh lordy, this is me. I am the little girl who rides the roller coaster that terrifies her and makes her throw up, then steps right back in line to ride it again. But I'm trying. This week has been a crazy one. Saturday -- Difficult Child: Mom, I'm leaving the weed farm. I need to make some money so I can pay my share of the ticket. Me: OK, but don't leave until you know you have work lined up and your leg is better. Do you have a place to stay? Difficult Child: Yes, my leg doesn't even hurt anymore and I got a spot at the winter shelter. Monday-- Difficult Child: Mom, my leg hurts too much to work. Can you get the ticket and I'll pay you back? Me: No, we can only pay half. Maybe see the doctor? Tuesday-- Difficult Child: Mom, I'm just going to work on my hurt leg, but day labor has no work. Can you get the ticket and I'll pay you back? Me: No, we can only pay half. Maybe get there earlier tomorrow? Later Tuesday-- Difficult Child: Mom, it is -3 degrees with the wind chill and that is nothing to mess with. Can you get the ticket and I'll pay you back? Me: No, we can only pay half. Did you get the list of places that provide coats I sent you last week? You have the hat and gloves I sent, right? Wednesday-- Difficult Child: Mom, if I don't get the ticket today the price is going to go up $50 or more. Can you get the ticket and I'll pay you back? Me: No, we can only pay half. I just looked and you can still leave on XX/XX and get the same deal. Later Wednesday-- Difficult Child: Mom, I will be living in a sober living house when I get there and he can only hold my spot until XX/XX. Can you get the ticket and I'll pay you back? Me: No, we can only pay half. Maybe see if he can work something out for you? Later still Wednesday: Difficult Child: Mom, I went to the doctor and got bad news on my blood work but I don't want to talk about it. I'm sorry I asked you for help. I'm just going to go live in the woods. Me: Send me a copy of your labs? Why are you going to live in the woods instead of the winter shelter? Thursday: Difficult Child: Mom, got a great job at day labor. Me: Great to hear! Friday: Difficult Child: Mom, it's so beautiful here. I think I am going to stick it out. Me: OK, good luck! Yes, I would say these are my goals too, and not easy to balance the sucker part vs. the boundaries part sometimes. Reading over my conversation with him, even though I can see the efforts to manipulate, I feel so heartless. Sometimes I am very sad that I feel I must be this kind of mother. Nailed it! Jodie, I am sorry you and your son's dad had to go through that. I am so glad your son is safe for now and that you found us. Keep on posting. It helps. [/QUOTE]
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