tired Cheryl
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On the way down to difficult child's therapy session and neuropsychologist summary appointment, husband tells me that his family is ready to disown me over the other night when I took difficult child back over to them because I could not endure another night of meltdowns. They all believe that I should be able to handle it and that I acted inappropriately. husband said that he defended me the best that he could but that he agreed that our son is our responsibility and I should not have bothered his parents. I was just so at the end of my rope and didn't want to lose it completely. Guess I'll have to figure out another escape plan?
During therapy we discussed this topic and therapist says that I need to learn how to "ignore all of the bad behavior as long as it is not dangerous" (how about dangerous to my mental health?) and that I need to get therapy for myself because I am not able to cope and therefore will not be successful implementing their behavior strategies.
Discussed with her that yes, I agree that I need therapy but I have been too busy taking difficult child to his multiple appointments as well as my own recent medical health problems, starting a business, etc. She said that if I need to miss his therapy in order to get therapy for myself then that is what I should do.
I have repeatedly asked them to view the video of the VEEG in June that quite clearly shows two 8/10 on the meltdown scale, meltdowns so that they will know what I am trying to deal with. So, I begged for them again to obtain video (same facility different dept) and VIEW IT! She says that regardless of what it shows that I need to be the one in control when he is melting down. Wouldn't that be nice? In that case, Maybe I am the one who needs the medication?
I told her that there has not been one thing that they have asked me to do that I am not doing. She says that I am probably making the meltdowns worse. Just watch the video! then you would know what I am/am not doing!
So, now husband really thinks the problems is me. That is until I mention that his technique is spankings with the belt. They had a little discussion with him about this. I also remind them that difficult child was just kicked out of school and has bitten, scratched, yelled at, etc. every teacher he has had.
We moved on to the neuropsychologist folks who give us summary. difficult child is average in intelligence but they believe that his numbers are lower than expected because he would not cooperate. He started out willing, but soon tried to hit them for no reason, hang onto their bodies and then tried to bite and kick them. (They did not hint at that when I picked him up from evaluation)
They see subtle things, the details of which are not written in the summary, that are consistent with the proposed focus to his epilepsy being frontal lobe.
The believe that he shows many signs of ADHD as well as Sensory Integration Disorder (SID), in addition to his ODD. Recommend stimulant type medications but will need to be cleared through neuro (and me!) first.
They are putting in writing that he needs to be in PPCD program through SD and agree that he will not suceed in a regular classroom (if I can find another that will take him.)
Next stop was neuro office (she was out sick) so talked to Social Worker about getting him OHI, she says that the form needs to come fromt the SD. She tells me what neuropsychologist and advocate that I spoke to last night said, our SD is very hard to deal with. Do I need to force them to give it to me? We will find out. difficult child has appointment with neuro next week to discuss all medications and eye pain that resolved with increas of Trileptal.
SD supervisor phoned but I missed the call! DARN! Will hear what she has to say tomorrow.
The morning explosions are fewer and do not last as long. Perhaps Risperal given at night is working? Maybe we need to go to twice a day? I'll give it some more time.
I am trying to find non- mother in law/father in law babysitters for this week's days that I would usually use them. Since leaving there really sets difficult child off I am trying to avoid that. Not too many folks want to or are capable of baby-sitting though.
Thanks for listening,
Cheryl
During therapy we discussed this topic and therapist says that I need to learn how to "ignore all of the bad behavior as long as it is not dangerous" (how about dangerous to my mental health?) and that I need to get therapy for myself because I am not able to cope and therefore will not be successful implementing their behavior strategies.
Discussed with her that yes, I agree that I need therapy but I have been too busy taking difficult child to his multiple appointments as well as my own recent medical health problems, starting a business, etc. She said that if I need to miss his therapy in order to get therapy for myself then that is what I should do.
I have repeatedly asked them to view the video of the VEEG in June that quite clearly shows two 8/10 on the meltdown scale, meltdowns so that they will know what I am trying to deal with. So, I begged for them again to obtain video (same facility different dept) and VIEW IT! She says that regardless of what it shows that I need to be the one in control when he is melting down. Wouldn't that be nice? In that case, Maybe I am the one who needs the medication?
I told her that there has not been one thing that they have asked me to do that I am not doing. She says that I am probably making the meltdowns worse. Just watch the video! then you would know what I am/am not doing!
So, now husband really thinks the problems is me. That is until I mention that his technique is spankings with the belt. They had a little discussion with him about this. I also remind them that difficult child was just kicked out of school and has bitten, scratched, yelled at, etc. every teacher he has had.
We moved on to the neuropsychologist folks who give us summary. difficult child is average in intelligence but they believe that his numbers are lower than expected because he would not cooperate. He started out willing, but soon tried to hit them for no reason, hang onto their bodies and then tried to bite and kick them. (They did not hint at that when I picked him up from evaluation)
They see subtle things, the details of which are not written in the summary, that are consistent with the proposed focus to his epilepsy being frontal lobe.
The believe that he shows many signs of ADHD as well as Sensory Integration Disorder (SID), in addition to his ODD. Recommend stimulant type medications but will need to be cleared through neuro (and me!) first.
They are putting in writing that he needs to be in PPCD program through SD and agree that he will not suceed in a regular classroom (if I can find another that will take him.)
Next stop was neuro office (she was out sick) so talked to Social Worker about getting him OHI, she says that the form needs to come fromt the SD. She tells me what neuropsychologist and advocate that I spoke to last night said, our SD is very hard to deal with. Do I need to force them to give it to me? We will find out. difficult child has appointment with neuro next week to discuss all medications and eye pain that resolved with increas of Trileptal.
SD supervisor phoned but I missed the call! DARN! Will hear what she has to say tomorrow.
The morning explosions are fewer and do not last as long. Perhaps Risperal given at night is working? Maybe we need to go to twice a day? I'll give it some more time.
I am trying to find non- mother in law/father in law babysitters for this week's days that I would usually use them. Since leaving there really sets difficult child off I am trying to avoid that. Not too many folks want to or are capable of baby-sitting though.
Thanks for listening,
Cheryl