Update--difficult child, colds, work

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by TerryJ2, Feb 18, 2008.

  1. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    Hi all, sorry I haven't been around lately to be supportive.
    difficult child has been sort of average--although he and husband got into it the other night, Big Time. (I was out with-my friends.) husband felt really guilty for losing his temper and quite frankly, all I could think of was, difficult child deserved it, plus, it's validation for me; difficult child can provoke even Mother Teresa, yet husband still leans toward thinking that difficult child is "my" issue. So I was a bit smug the other day.
    I've been working 2 wks straight, 12-hr days incl. weekends, on a restaurant lobby mural for a new Egyptian restaurant nearby. It's a montage of every Egyptian tourist site and then some, and the owner, excuse the expression, is a real slave driver. He wanted the entire restaurant done in 2 wks. Yeah, right. It's an old Red Lobster, and you know how much wall space those have ... not to mention that the walls are horizontal wood planks and a bear to paint on. The owner hired another muralist, too--I've never had that happen before! Although the other artist is highly ADHD and drives me nuts, he is much more of a muralist, per se, gridding out things accurately, and he is very, very fast, so since I'm more of a portrait and graphic design artist, I've learned a lot.
    I am finished, except for the polyurethane finish, and have rewarded myself with-a really bad cold. I was in bed all day. Sigh.
    I am concerned that difficult child's Adderal is beginning to wear off earlier these days--his grades are slipping and he's running around like a top--but we don't want to increase the dose. In fact, we were hoping to start weaning him this summer. I'm thinking about increasing his dose anyway just to see if it makes him too sleepy.
    We were invited to the first private "practice" meal at the Egyptian restaurant the other night (we're the guinea pigs--and new family) and the food was phenomenal. Even difficult child, who is highly negative, went back for 3rds.
    The next day, the owner came up to me, and with-his charming Arabic accent said, "You adopted him when he was only 2 days old? He gives you a hard time. You've got your hands full."
    And that was when difficult child was well behaved! The funny part was difficult child trying to turn his head away from the belly dancers, while they danced circles around him, and he tried to zip his jacket up over his head. I think he was more entertaining than they were.
    The owner's kids--6 mo's and 2 yrs--are perfect angels, very much like my easy child. They actually posed for their portraits on the wall! I put them in their parents' laps, riding on camels. I have never, ever, had a child under the age of 10 sit for a portrait before. Unbelievable. They are soooo cute--huge big brown eyes--and the infant girl makes the cutest gurgling sounds. Makes me kind of sad when I think about what I missed with-difficult child. (I posted a note on the General BB about that a few mo's ago, when I spent time with-someone else's baby.) The good thing is that the family has flown over from Egypt to help with-the restaurant opening, and they all help with-the kids. It really helps to have an extended family. I never realized how isolated we had become when we moved to another state so many yrs ago. And boy, the mom (who is American, by the way) is really going to miss them when they leave in a cpl mo's, because she'll have 2 small kids plus the restaurant and it will be back to just her and her husband.
    Despite the hard work, and the toll it has taken on my neck and back, I have to say I like working all day, and it helps my relationship with-difficult child. He looks forward to my picking him up at school, and actually WANTS to eat my home cooking. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that, LOL!
    Hugs to all of you. I've read a few of the notes but haven't replied to many.
  2. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    Sounds like you had a HUGE job and did wonderful work with it. The restaurant sounds great. Here in the US we do tend to be cut off from extended family. I know when we lived in OH there were literally TONS (over 100) of my relatives around and only a few would even talk to me. I felt really isolated then. I didn't get notices about family reunions and events until AFTER they happened, even when I later found out there were months of planning involved. It really hurt. Still does, a little.

    It is great that the family could come help. The kids sound so cute.

    Glad you are back with us.


  3. mstang67chic

    mstang67chic Going Green

    Well, on a positive note, the cold at least gave you some time to rest your back! LOL Hope you feel better soon.

    Did you get any pictures of the mural? It sounds really neat!
  4. Big Bad Kitty

    Big Bad Kitty lolcat

    WOW Terry, you have been busy!
    I've been wondering about you. Thanks for checking in. I think that it is so awesome that you muraled a restaurant. I mean how cool is that?

    Hope we see ya around more ;)
  5. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    A mural-how awesome and amazing!!

    I hope you are feeling better soon.
  6. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    Now I know I'm not gonna be the only one who wants to know this but...... Could you possibly snap some pics of the murals and post them. OMG would I LOVE to see them!!! I have a weakeness for Egyptian art of any sort. And a whole restaurant in murals......... WOW.

    Sounds like a fabulous project to work on.

    It's nice for husband's to get wake up calls everyonce in awhile. (although he probably wouldn't agree) Maybe this will change the way he looks at things a bit.

    Sorry to hear about the cold. But hopefully it's giving you an excuse to rest your sore back and take care of yourself.

  7. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    Yes, as soon as I am able, I will snap a roll of film and post a link or whatever I can figure out on this new bb.
  8. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful


  9. ML

    ML Guest

    It was so nice to read a post from you. I hope your cold goes away soon and that you can relax and enjoy some down time. Hugs, Michele