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Update: Father says "don't call me anymore."
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 640316" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>That is so strange!</p><p></p><p>Things like that happen around family dysfunction, don't they? Like, you just can't believe it could be happening, but there it is.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>And thank goodness it does. Otherwise, we would forget to protect ourselves.</p><p></p><p>You handled it well, MWM ~ except for the not being able to disconnect the phone part.</p><p></p><p>How eerie was that?!?</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes.</p><p></p><p>Good phrase: selective bully. There is no bully, I think, who is not a selective bully. When they are not bullying someone over whom they have power, they are displaying cowardice before someone they perceive to have more power than they do. That is how a bully's mind works. Up and down the power spectrum. We never really have a relationship with a bully, at all. They are in relationship with their own power, or lack of it.</p><p></p><p>I never could figure out whether to be sorry for that, or just be happy I finally saw it for what it was. </p><p></p><p>Very destructive to us, to have a bully for a parent.</p><p></p><p>I am glad you were able to see how his problems have affected him, and were able to stop believing in him.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry, MWM.</p><p></p><p>We all want our fathers to be heroes.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Thanksgiving is the best holiday.</p><p></p><p>Maybe because we are older, there seem to be more things that inspire gratitude.</p><p></p><p>I love it when there are babies in the family at the holidays. And just think. Next year, she will be walking and beginning to talk!</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 640316, member: 17461"] That is so strange! Things like that happen around family dysfunction, don't they? Like, you just can't believe it could be happening, but there it is. And thank goodness it does. Otherwise, we would forget to protect ourselves. You handled it well, MWM ~ except for the not being able to disconnect the phone part. How eerie was that?!? Yes. Good phrase: selective bully. There is no bully, I think, who is not a selective bully. When they are not bullying someone over whom they have power, they are displaying cowardice before someone they perceive to have more power than they do. That is how a bully's mind works. Up and down the power spectrum. We never really have a relationship with a bully, at all. They are in relationship with their own power, or lack of it. I never could figure out whether to be sorry for that, or just be happy I finally saw it for what it was. Very destructive to us, to have a bully for a parent. I am glad you were able to see how his problems have affected him, and were able to stop believing in him. I'm sorry, MWM. We all want our fathers to be heroes. Thanksgiving is the best holiday. Maybe because we are older, there seem to be more things that inspire gratitude. I love it when there are babies in the family at the holidays. And just think. Next year, she will be walking and beginning to talk! Cedar [/QUOTE]
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