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Update: Father says "don't call me anymore."
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 640368" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, he was the one who told me not to contact him. He has said that before and then refused to talk to all of us for weeks. He did a year with my sister. But it is my decision that if he wants no contact, I will not contact him. I did keep the door open for him to contact me if he wanted to and would talk respectfully, as I always talk to him. I told him "It is entirely your decision who to speak to and what to do with your own money." Well, I wrote it in my paragraph.</p><p></p><p>I know him and he will be shocked that I didn't beg forgiveness so that I can get his money. I don't really want his money at the cost of it. He is not giving it to us with joy. It has conditions applied to it. So let him split it between my two siblings. I am so done with caring about that. Money has never been important to me (Suzir, I was not like your mother...lol...but I just never had a strong need to have material things that other people craved). </p><p></p><p>To me, peace is way on the top of my list in what I want. </p><p></p><p>He is free to contact me, but never again will I put up with his abuse, just as I stopped letting 37 abuse me. It is his call now. </p><p></p><p>Today was a good day. I did go to my credit union to show them the check and to ask how to cleared thier online applicaton. After all Thief told the cops she had used the ap that our credit union has. I had a nice talk with a really smart and zealous young woman who is the manager of the credit union. She had checked all morning for a $200 check cashed on Dec. 3rd and none exxisted. Thief lied to cop and did not use this facility to cash her check. My father's bank said it was some ap from Bank of America. So the credit union, angry that she slandered their credit union, called the cop to tell him that she'd lied to him. Later one of the cops, higher up than the one doing the investigation and another buddy of ours, said, "Now she has done obstruction of justice." </p><p></p><p>Right after that, I had coffee with a friend, had a nice time, then went home because it was starting to snow pretty badly. I refused to let this stuff rule my day or my emotions and used my favorite copi9ng mechanism---distraction. I had a day off so I listened to Christmas music, which I love, and danced around the house and sang and let my dogs run after me, then I took a nap. It was a good day. A peaceful day in Pamland. </p><p></p><p>I am sooooooooooooooooooooooooo grateful to the concept of Mindfulness, radical acceptance, and dialectal behavioral therapy. I can handle even the worst drama now and still feel at peace because things are as they should be or they wouldn't be this way. And I can move on from the drama quickly. </p><p></p><p>I highly recommend these methods for anyone under stress.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 640368, member: 1550"] Well, he was the one who told me not to contact him. He has said that before and then refused to talk to all of us for weeks. He did a year with my sister. But it is my decision that if he wants no contact, I will not contact him. I did keep the door open for him to contact me if he wanted to and would talk respectfully, as I always talk to him. I told him "It is entirely your decision who to speak to and what to do with your own money." Well, I wrote it in my paragraph. I know him and he will be shocked that I didn't beg forgiveness so that I can get his money. I don't really want his money at the cost of it. He is not giving it to us with joy. It has conditions applied to it. So let him split it between my two siblings. I am so done with caring about that. Money has never been important to me (Suzir, I was not like your mother...lol...but I just never had a strong need to have material things that other people craved). To me, peace is way on the top of my list in what I want. He is free to contact me, but never again will I put up with his abuse, just as I stopped letting 37 abuse me. It is his call now. Today was a good day. I did go to my credit union to show them the check and to ask how to cleared thier online applicaton. After all Thief told the cops she had used the ap that our credit union has. I had a nice talk with a really smart and zealous young woman who is the manager of the credit union. She had checked all morning for a $200 check cashed on Dec. 3rd and none exxisted. Thief lied to cop and did not use this facility to cash her check. My father's bank said it was some ap from Bank of America. So the credit union, angry that she slandered their credit union, called the cop to tell him that she'd lied to him. Later one of the cops, higher up than the one doing the investigation and another buddy of ours, said, "Now she has done obstruction of justice." Right after that, I had coffee with a friend, had a nice time, then went home because it was starting to snow pretty badly. I refused to let this stuff rule my day or my emotions and used my favorite copi9ng mechanism---distraction. I had a day off so I listened to Christmas music, which I love, and danced around the house and sang and let my dogs run after me, then I took a nap. It was a good day. A peaceful day in Pamland. I am sooooooooooooooooooooooooo grateful to the concept of Mindfulness, radical acceptance, and dialectal behavioral therapy. I can handle even the worst drama now and still feel at peace because things are as they should be or they wouldn't be this way. And I can move on from the drama quickly. I highly recommend these methods for anyone under stress. [/QUOTE]
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