Alisonlg
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Hello all!
I apologize for the time I've been away. I figured I'd pop in to check on how everyone was doing & share an update on us.
M- We switched M over from Celexa to Zoloft about 2 months ago and the switch seemed to help a bit. He's a little more under control and less angry. Still very obsessive about things...he must beg us to buy him a Webkinz almost every day and spend 15-20 minutes rolling around on the floor because he doesn't have enough money and we won't pay for it. Ah, 9 years of consistent parenting and he still thinks we'll give in if he whines and begs and throws a tantrum. Gotta love it.
The Theraputic School recognized that M might need Occupational Therapist (OT) for his difficulty with writting (FINALLY, somebody gets it!) and did an informal observation. During their observation, they noted that he did have some weakness in writting and his grasp, was clumsy (bumping into desks), had poor motor skills in gym class, toe walking, etc. So, now they're doing a formal Occupational Therapist (OT) evaluation as a part of his PPT to get him services. YIPPIE! Of course, this stirred a bit in my mind to start to reconsider whether M might have Aspergers. Who knows. But, something to keep in the back of the mind I guess.
C- C seems to get worse with time. What started out as behaviors that only showed at home and him being a golden boy at school, started surfacing at school early in the school year this year. While his violence towards the cat has eased up dramatically, he now has turned on his brother and almost constantly hits and torments his easily aggitated brother. Every single hour of every single day is like a constant battle ground between the two of them. M trys to be C's father by telling him what he can or can not do or what he can or can not play with and then C instantly retaliates by hitting with his hands or an object. Often times, the hitting is unprovoked (like his violence towards the cat was).
At 4 yrs and 3 months, he's still not fully potty trained. He often will wet his pants or get spots of poop in his underwear and almost ALWAYS wets at night, right through his diaper and soaks his bed. This past week, he decided to wipe his butt on the shower curtain and then Sunday morning decided to pee on his brother while he was on the computer!!!!!! WHY? WHY on EARTH would he whip it out and pee on his brother? When asked, he said he didn't know..he just did it. If he's doing something he's not supposed to do and you tell him to stop, he just keeps doing it. No amount of time-outs seems to have any effect on him.
He is extremely co-dependent and needy, whiney (even though we REFUSE to respond to whining- we will only respond when his speaks calmly), over the top emotional, etc and has been for quite some time. It just isn't getting any better with age. I was always hopeful that with increased verbal & processing skills and age that it would get better.
He has no diagnosis of any kind...the therapist that we've seen seems to deal only in verbage and behavior charts...I was hoping to at least get some idea of what I was dealing with so I could read some books or seek out specialists if needed (I was curious if he was Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)).
One plus is that he does give a lot of LOVE. Plenty of "I love you"'s, hugs, kisses, and snuggles. He's definitely the most affectionate guy in the house.
I have not taken the boys to the therapist in a few months. Admittingly that's my fault and I feel guilty about it. Not that it has brought us much benefit, but I guess we should be going. Three things have kept me from bringing them: 1) our last appointment the receptionist wasn't there to make our next set of appts...well, if it's up to me to call I won't remember...and I haven't. 2) cost- $60 a week for the two kids, on top of my appts ($30-60 a week), plus everyone's Rx's, plus all of the other costs of life is pretty darn expensive when you add it all up. 3) Anxiety. Our last appointment, the therapist asked me to develop the entire behavior chart system and figure out the pts that each child would get for each behavior and figure out what level that would put them on and what benefits they would get on each level and that felt VERY overwhelming to me. I sat down and tried to do it and I about had a panic attack. So, I'm afraid to go back and be the bad parent that didn't do my "homework" and have been parenting these past few months without my therapist assigned behavior system.
husband is getting increasingly angry and distant, but refuses to acknowledge it. If I try to talk to him about it, he'll make an excuse about just not getting enough sleep the night before, or how he is sick and that's why he's overly angry...it's always something, but not reality. He can't acknowledge that he's not happy and he refuses to talk to someone.
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:: So, that's US in a nutshell.
I apologize for the time I've been away. I figured I'd pop in to check on how everyone was doing & share an update on us.
M- We switched M over from Celexa to Zoloft about 2 months ago and the switch seemed to help a bit. He's a little more under control and less angry. Still very obsessive about things...he must beg us to buy him a Webkinz almost every day and spend 15-20 minutes rolling around on the floor because he doesn't have enough money and we won't pay for it. Ah, 9 years of consistent parenting and he still thinks we'll give in if he whines and begs and throws a tantrum. Gotta love it.
The Theraputic School recognized that M might need Occupational Therapist (OT) for his difficulty with writting (FINALLY, somebody gets it!) and did an informal observation. During their observation, they noted that he did have some weakness in writting and his grasp, was clumsy (bumping into desks), had poor motor skills in gym class, toe walking, etc. So, now they're doing a formal Occupational Therapist (OT) evaluation as a part of his PPT to get him services. YIPPIE! Of course, this stirred a bit in my mind to start to reconsider whether M might have Aspergers. Who knows. But, something to keep in the back of the mind I guess.
C- C seems to get worse with time. What started out as behaviors that only showed at home and him being a golden boy at school, started surfacing at school early in the school year this year. While his violence towards the cat has eased up dramatically, he now has turned on his brother and almost constantly hits and torments his easily aggitated brother. Every single hour of every single day is like a constant battle ground between the two of them. M trys to be C's father by telling him what he can or can not do or what he can or can not play with and then C instantly retaliates by hitting with his hands or an object. Often times, the hitting is unprovoked (like his violence towards the cat was).
At 4 yrs and 3 months, he's still not fully potty trained. He often will wet his pants or get spots of poop in his underwear and almost ALWAYS wets at night, right through his diaper and soaks his bed. This past week, he decided to wipe his butt on the shower curtain and then Sunday morning decided to pee on his brother while he was on the computer!!!!!! WHY? WHY on EARTH would he whip it out and pee on his brother? When asked, he said he didn't know..he just did it. If he's doing something he's not supposed to do and you tell him to stop, he just keeps doing it. No amount of time-outs seems to have any effect on him.
He is extremely co-dependent and needy, whiney (even though we REFUSE to respond to whining- we will only respond when his speaks calmly), over the top emotional, etc and has been for quite some time. It just isn't getting any better with age. I was always hopeful that with increased verbal & processing skills and age that it would get better.
He has no diagnosis of any kind...the therapist that we've seen seems to deal only in verbage and behavior charts...I was hoping to at least get some idea of what I was dealing with so I could read some books or seek out specialists if needed (I was curious if he was Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)).
One plus is that he does give a lot of LOVE. Plenty of "I love you"'s, hugs, kisses, and snuggles. He's definitely the most affectionate guy in the house.
I have not taken the boys to the therapist in a few months. Admittingly that's my fault and I feel guilty about it. Not that it has brought us much benefit, but I guess we should be going. Three things have kept me from bringing them: 1) our last appointment the receptionist wasn't there to make our next set of appts...well, if it's up to me to call I won't remember...and I haven't. 2) cost- $60 a week for the two kids, on top of my appts ($30-60 a week), plus everyone's Rx's, plus all of the other costs of life is pretty darn expensive when you add it all up. 3) Anxiety. Our last appointment, the therapist asked me to develop the entire behavior chart system and figure out the pts that each child would get for each behavior and figure out what level that would put them on and what benefits they would get on each level and that felt VERY overwhelming to me. I sat down and tried to do it and I about had a panic attack. So, I'm afraid to go back and be the bad parent that didn't do my "homework" and have been parenting these past few months without my therapist assigned behavior system.
husband is getting increasingly angry and distant, but refuses to acknowledge it. If I try to talk to him about it, he'll make an excuse about just not getting enough sleep the night before, or how he is sick and that's why he's overly angry...it's always something, but not reality. He can't acknowledge that he's not happy and he refuses to talk to someone.
::
:: So, that's US in a nutshell.
It has been SO long.
