Well, I guess she finally came home. Of course, I was at work. Only my husband (her father) was home. He does not deal well in "disappointing" or "upsetting" his children. However, due to some recent events, I told him that he could have the discussion with her about her theft and the need for her to never be at our house without one of us present. (He recently spoke with his ex - the mother - who told him that difficult one was moving in with a friend in town, so we didn't need to "kick her out" and that it would be best if we just told her that she could only be at our house when we were present). Of course, he took the ex's advice and just flat out me that this was the way it was going to be. No discussion. Just another unilateral decision made by him about what was going to happen in our home because this concerned his daughter. Not mine. Never mind that these decisions have a real impact upon my life. He texted me a cryptic message that "it really isn't fun here". No doubt. When I called and asked what was going on, he is short with me and indicates that the difficult one is upset because she went upstairs into the room she was using and saw that her clothes and personal items had been placed in boxes. He told me that he was in the process of dealing with his daughter and phone calls from his ex, and now me. He "didn't like being in the middle of this vicious triangle". Okay. What does this mean? I told him I would simply bow out of the difficulty and he could deal with it as he will. But also that, if difficult one is upset because her things are packed, she could discuss it with me as I was the one who packed her belongings. Mostly due to the fact that while dad was home before, she was downstairs packing up MY belongings to take with her when she moved out. Now she's upset because I made sure she wasn't packing any of MY belongings again? (The room she was occupying has a cubby compartment which contains several totes with my belongings). Sorry to say, but I think this may be the end of my patience in this regard. I love my husband, but he has got to stop waffling when it comes to this. I can't live in a house in which 1) I can't trust that my personal belongings are safe; 2) where I feel that my needs are being overlooked in favor of someone who doesn't deserve it; 3) where I feel that that I have no say in what is happening inside or who gets to live with us. I am at work, upset and frustrated, and feeling as if my world is crashing down around me. Depending upon what I find when I get home, I may have a choice to make that I just don't want to deal with. I'm afraid that I am making this decision solely upon emotion and not based upon solid reason. Am I jealous of my husband's relationship with his daughter? Am I being too hard? Am I wrong to feel that he is listening more to what his ex would like him to do rather than what I feel needs to be done? I am just so afraid.