My daughter has been living with a friend and her family since the beginning of June. She graduated HS and turned 18 the same week. The next week she left. We had very little contact at first and now there is none. I found out she is smoking pot, possibly more and probably drinking. She lost one of her jobs because her alarm didn't go off. No call to her employer. She was missing days and coming in late too. They finally let her go. This was pt summer job a few days a week. She also has a ft job, I'm afraid she may be in jeopardy of loosing. Especially if they drug test. Which I would think they would considering the field. Not my problem right? I went to where she is staying this weekend to try to talk. She wasn't answering my calls or texts. I knocked and she would not even come to the door. A family member came home and sent her out. She was the rudest little brat to me. I tried talking and all I got was 'I don't know' 'just want to have a fun summer' total attitude. She stood there looking at me with pure hatred shrugging her shoulders. Who the hell is this girl?? My daughter??? How? I just said I'll give you what you want and I walked away. She called me back because she thought I was crying. I wasn't. Then I just left. ThAt was it. I can't believe this is happening. I'm all for her to have her independence but shutting your family out for no reason? Bullshit. Being an for no reason. She's wasting all her graduation money. No plans for school this fall although she was planning to go earlier this year. People say, She's finding herself. What?? By treating her family like dirt? I'm so angry, sad, depressed, hurt. I literally feel broken. You name it. I fear this will continue to get worse before it gets better. I know I need to live my life and be there for my other child and husband but it's so hard with this going on. My husband told me not to go there. He said what did you expect? I will not contact her again. I'm done trying. I'm done. I have to be. I need to detach. I say this over and over in my head trying to fall asleep at night. Detach detach detach. Then why is it so hard? ME 42 husband 40 DD1 18 DD2 9 My oldest moved out a week after turning 18. I'm really struggling. Looking for advice.