BusynMember
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We visited the school principal, played the cell phone message for him, showed him some IMs and told him there was a "hate easy child Club" at school. This is a new principal who was brought in from a nearby district. He was AWESOME. He said, "This will be over by the end of the day."
After we left he called easy child and Sara into the office and held a mediation. Both girls could talk about their feelings and emotions and both admitted that their friendship meant something and that they wanted to repair it.
Sara said that she had been horrified with K. (from the other school) called and left such a vicious message on easy child's phone. She said she didn't want to hang out with K. anymore. Since K. is from another school, that won't be too hard, however she is a big shot in the overflowing community--a rich girl who is truly beautiful, but can be very ugly inside. Still, the girls don't see her day-to-day.
On the way home, easy child walked with the daughter of the cop who we had reported the abuse to, and they made up. This was important as these two have been great friends for several years.
So everything is back to normal and I'm glad I got involved. It was very helpful. I think this idea of mediation between girls is great. This way it didn't put the blame on Sara (which would have alienated her), but gave her a chance to tell easy child some things that bothered her about easy child and easy child was a good sport, listening, agreeing, and promising to try harder.
Since kids can be so vicious and suicide is high among teens, I think parents and schools should get involved when their kids are being tortured at school--it can make a big difference. I don't recommend calling the parents--get the school involved or call the police so that the girls learn that you can't harass people over the internet or with cell phones--that is against the law. Girls are often surprised to learn this.
The bottom line is that easy child is happy again and the Mean Girl Club is over. It is quite a relief to me. I didn't sleep for a few nights. And I thought my fifth child would make it easier...it doesn't get easier
After we left he called easy child and Sara into the office and held a mediation. Both girls could talk about their feelings and emotions and both admitted that their friendship meant something and that they wanted to repair it.
Sara said that she had been horrified with K. (from the other school) called and left such a vicious message on easy child's phone. She said she didn't want to hang out with K. anymore. Since K. is from another school, that won't be too hard, however she is a big shot in the overflowing community--a rich girl who is truly beautiful, but can be very ugly inside. Still, the girls don't see her day-to-day.
On the way home, easy child walked with the daughter of the cop who we had reported the abuse to, and they made up. This was important as these two have been great friends for several years.
So everything is back to normal and I'm glad I got involved. It was very helpful. I think this idea of mediation between girls is great. This way it didn't put the blame on Sara (which would have alienated her), but gave her a chance to tell easy child some things that bothered her about easy child and easy child was a good sport, listening, agreeing, and promising to try harder.
Since kids can be so vicious and suicide is high among teens, I think parents and schools should get involved when their kids are being tortured at school--it can make a big difference. I don't recommend calling the parents--get the school involved or call the police so that the girls learn that you can't harass people over the internet or with cell phones--that is against the law. Girls are often surprised to learn this.
The bottom line is that easy child is happy again and the Mean Girl Club is over. It is quite a relief to me. I didn't sleep for a few nights. And I thought my fifth child would make it easier...it doesn't get easier
