Thank you everyone for your congrats. i went to visit difficult child last night. i am pretty sure she is going to take her hubby back. i asked her about her plans for when i take her home (I have the baby seat in my car) she said she didnt know with a grin. that tells me the birth has bonded them (and his manipulative ways have worked wonders). i knew this would happen. she had no intentions of divorcing him she just wanted a separation. she isnt one for following through on much of anything and she isnt one who likes to work or loose any sleep so I cannot see her mother instincts kick in if anything she will be more selfish then ever, she will take him back so he can do most of the work with the baby. She will use her baby as a guilt trip to get her way. Susiestar: difficult child privates are pretty badly swollen. The nurses said they havent seen anything like that in a while. She had 1 small 1st degree tear. They thought she was so badly swollen she wouldnt be able to go urinate. They were going to re catheterize her. She managed to use the bathroom so all is ok for now. My concern is for her baby. She let him go 25hrs without a feed. She has tried to breastfeed but with no success. The nurses took tested his blood and his blood sugar was low so they gave him formula. She wont be persistent with trying to b/feed. She couldnt handle the pain when they tried to latch him on. I hope the baby starts crying really loud to be fed. I will keep you guys posted.