After a month of screaming fights with girlfriend and pressure from her to have another baby ASAP, difficult child has gone hypomanic and lost his job. They moved into a great place a month ago - half of a duplex, hardwood floors (great for difficult child's allergies), just the cutest little house. They both seemed psyched (although girlfriend threw tantrums at not getting to have cats, despite difficult child's severe allergies). We gave difficult child enough furniture to make the place cozy (although we had him sign a document acknowledging that the furniture is ours, as we don't trust girlfriend). difficult child was so excited. Then girlfriend began putting the full court press on about wanting a baby NOW, and freaking out when difficult child said no, they had to save up money, get married, and be stable job-wise and financially before considering another pregnancy. He sounded like a easy child, honestly! Then he got to see how girlfriend functions when away from her mother; he's always seen himself as her rescuer, and was sure she would be completely different once away from her mother. How wrong he was. She spent the month sleeping and watching youtube videos, not getting her papers sent in so that she could get her sick leave pay (needed to ask her doctor to send in a form, and she wouldn't do it, then said it wasn't her fault she had no money). She spent $$ that people at work gave them toward funeral expenses, on cigarettes and pop. She drinks about eight big bottles of pop a day and chain-smokes. It would be reasonable to wonder about post-partum depression except that this is the way she was before she was pregnant. She refused to go back to work even though she was fine physically, because she 'ought' to have three months off. She knew husband and I wouldn't want difficult child evicted for nonpayment of rent (he would never get another apartment in this town), so spent her last money on cigs and screamed at difficult child for not buying her more, and let us pay the month's expenses. She's on the lease. difficult child can't kick her out. difficult child has gotten so stressed from seeing this woman show her true colors that he's decompensated. He was able to see it coming, though, and let his boss know that he was not doing well. He didn't wait until he did something weird or dangerous at work. He also decided to go back on medications, which is a huge decision for him. He's struggling with major side-effects again and isn't up to a therapeutic dose, so still has the hypomanic symptoms along with the side-effects. I wish girlfriend would go back to her mother. She got totally offended that I wouldn't give her my SUV to move her mother's stuff around, after the death threats her mother made to difficult child and to us. I thought maybe she'd be offended enough to leave, but no. She hasn't spoken to us since then until today, when she came over with difficult child and chatted and simpered and then got me alone to tell me that difficult child is 'mean' to her. By that she means he holds her at arm's length and doesn't want to discuss her feelings all day long. She wants him to stop his medications, as she thinks the medications are making him irritable. I told her NO, his ILLNESS is making him irritable!! And leave him alone, for heaven's sake. I also told her that, since she just got paid her 60% leave, she can now pay her share of the rent and utilities. The conversation ended pretty promptly with that. I'm worried for difficult child. girlfriend is enough to drive anyone crazy. I hope, hope, hope that he doesn't scream at her or put his fist through a wall. He knows to walk away and leave the house when he gets too irritated, but it worries me. Does anyone have any ideas on how to get someone to leave when their name is on a lease?